Mel Robbins: the blog

Hank doesn’t like my opening for the show and I don’t like Hank’s. That’s why we’ve decided to let you, the callers, create a brand new Make it Happen opening. The more creative, the better. You can submit audio, a video or just write a snazzy, but brief paragraph.

While I want you to be as original and creative as possible, there are a few rules.

You must:
*Include the show’s phone number: 888 454 3378
*Include the show’s email address: radio@melrobbins.com
*Mention that we stream live on www.bordersmedia.com
*Have fun with it!

If we chose your opening, it will be read by me (or Hank) every show.

To enter: Send your audio clip, video or brief paragraph to radio@melrobbins.com.

An opening is the show’s introduction, so this is the first thing listeners will hear. Make sure you capture the essence of what Make it Happen does - changes peoples’ lives.

So get those wheels turning. Your future in radio depends on it.

Hank created this site THIS MORNING and has already heard from people at Crunch Gym who are interested in his creation. Here is a great example of someone with a great idea, putting it out there and getting things done!

Check out STEP RUNNING— coming soon to a gym near you!

steprunner.blogspot.com

Eye Jokes:

- Mel’s fashion statement for CNBC this Thursday

- Mel seeing red

- Mel recognizing her firey passion

- Mel is red hot!

- Bow down to your maker (aka Mel)!

- Mel’s heating up!

Please comment and leave more clever eye jokes! Don’t forget to watch me on The Big Idea with Donny Deutsch this Thursday night.

There is a secret code in business allowing just a handful of Alpha Males to
have it all while dooming everyone else to fight for the scraps.

And it is simply the outdated 1980s notion that Alpha Males do in fact run the
show.

Welcome to 2008.

Your gender doesn’t determine your potential for success.

Your ideas, your work ethic and how you position yourself determine your
potential for success. And if you are having trouble, I will help - all
have to do is ask: radio@melrobbins.com.

Donny asked me, “Mel, if the alpha male code doesn’t apply - why aren’t more
women in leadership roles in large public companies.’

Simple.

The old code. The old work model. An old way of thinking. Your choices
are no longer limited by how old men think.

More than half the work force is now made up of Gen Ys and husbands and
wives who both work.

Gen Ys think this alpha code is a bunch of crap. And husbands and wives who
both work know that something’s gotta give either at home or a work to move
your career forward on your terms.

More women graduate from college and graduate school than guys. With better grades and more honors degrees. You do the Alpha Male Math.

The New York Times recently reported that young women are climbing the ranks
faster and earning more money in major cities than their 20-something male
peers. There is more evidence than ever that women can succeed in business
without turning into a guy.

As far as I’m concerned, the only thing standing in your way to get the
things you want in life - is you. Not some silly alpha code.

And, I’m here to help you. Feel stuck? Not getting what
you want out of life?

Want to live your dream, on your terms? Email me at radio@melrobbins.com
and I will make it happen for you. Don’t believe me? All it takes is an
email. Let’s see if you are really ready to understand the secret to
success. Send the email.

There’s a new way to play the game of achievement. A little bit of S.O.B. can go a long way, but it doesn’t involve treating others as if you are Simon Cowell or Donald Trump.

Simon can afford to be an S.O.B. He’s on TV and he owns the show! And Donald may be an S.O.B. in the boardroom - but underneath the tough veneer - he’s a respected and decent guy who’s driven by passion. Just check out the interview I did with him in the Atrium of Trump Towers. His swagger of success comes from believing in yourself and working hard.

If you want to be play the game of achievement - definitely try your hand at not being nice - that is - not being nice to YOURSELF. Far too often, I coach people who let themselves off the hook too easily. Everyday, you can hear me nailing people on my radio show for this mistake, click here and listen in.

This week, why not try pushing yourself as far as you can possibly go? That’s what a true pressure-ridden, unapologetic S.O.B. would do. They’d unleash it on themselves.

Here’s how to tap your Inner S.O.B.:

– Be an S.O.B. with your lame excuses. Excuses are for the JV Team. Your Inner S.O.B. has no excuses.

– Be an S.O.B. with the fear that stops you in your tracks. Fear? Your Inner S.O.B. eats fear for breakfast.

– Be an S.O.B. when people doubt you. Your Inner S.O.B. loves to prove ‘em all wrong - adopt an ‘I’ll show you’ attitude.

– Be an S.O.B. even when YOU see no way out. No exit sign? Your Inner S.O.B. creates an off-ramp by running thru the nearest wall.

And if you aren’t tough enough to do it for a week- here’s the easiest way to unleash your inner S.O.B. Outsource the kick in the pants. I’m not kidding. Outsource it to me. The more you make yourself accountable to someone whose opinion you respect the more likely you will push through your excuses, your fear and your doubt.

Just email me at radio@melrobbins.com and I will arrange for you to be a guest on my radio show. I will help you tap into your inner S.O.B. so that you can get everything you want in your life. Don’t believe me? I’ll show you…email me and find out what a true S.O.B. can help you accomplish.

- Mel

Here’s the deal.

The key to being successful is that you have to FEEL successful in your day to day life. Call it “fake it til you make it” if you like - just trust me on this - do it - it works.

Most of us fall into the trap of thinking that we will be successful WHEN we achieve something. I hear it all the time on my radio show - Make It Happen with Mel Robbins.

“I’ll be successful when I make my first million.”
“I will be a success when I quit my job and launch my business.”
“Success will happen when I climb out of this cashflow crunch on payroll.”
“I won’t consider myself a success until I get my MBA.”

You must stop defining success as something that happens in the future.

If you define success as a future event - you are, by definition, saying that you are not a success right now! That kind of thinking will kill you. It will kill your drive. It will kill your confidence. You might as well stand in front of a mirror and shout “Loser!” at yourself. If you are doing that currently - email me - radio@melrobbins.com - so I can help you get on track.

The key to being successful, to creating success stories in your life and to having what you want is figuring out ways to FEEL successful in your daily life. How do you do that? You start by thinking about what a successful person in your shoes does in their daily life. Think granular. What time do you wake up? What do you eat? Who’s your first phone call to? Who do you hang out with? What articles do you read?

Start doing those things NOW.

For example: You want to run a marathon? Great. Stop worrying about your lung capacity, your hangover or the fact that you can’t run 26 yards, let alone 26 miles. Pretend you already are a marathon runner. What do you need to do everyday now that you are a marathon runner. Yes, you go for a run. Yes, you read about running. Yes, you eat a little healthier. Yes, you join a running club. Yes, you get out there in the rain. And you do it, because that’s what a marathon runner does. And as you starting doing those little things that a marathoner does – not only will you feel like one – you will BE one.

As I said on the show, as cheesy as it sounds - my husband and I have brunch every January 1st and we “create the year.” We define for ourselves what will make a successful year - as it relates to our kids, our marriage, our businesses, our friends, ourselves personally. By taking the time to define what success feels like ON OUR TERMS - and identifying some specific things we need to do to start living that way now, we have a roadmap to achieve success. It’s so inspiring and so easy to do - that our 2 older kids (they’re 9yrs and 7yrs) have now joined in.

It’s a Success Balance Sheet - and I’ve created one for you to do. Just download it. Print it out. And make it work for you.

And make sure you tune into the radio show when you can. You can hear it right here on the Web on Bordersmedia.com. Click here to listen right now!

Don’t forget email me at radio@melrobbins.com - I want to know what you put on your balance sheet and how I can help you stick to it.

- Mel Robbins

Life is a like riding in a taxi. Sitting at a light going nowhere or traveling 50 miles an hour – it’s all the same - the meter is still running. Your meter is running. So what are you gonna do? And, more importantly, what have you been waiting for?

Changing your life is easier than you think, and I know exactly how you do it.

I’ve changed my own career 6 times in 14 years. I went from being a public defender in Manhattan; to a corporate litigation attorney; to a dot-com executive; to a life coach; to an executive coach; to a radio show host and founder of a media company partnering on products with Borders Books, Kaplan and experts around the country. And along the way I figured out how to have 3 kids, stay married (to another entrepreneur), pay the mortgage and remember to feed the dog. You can too.

With each change – I ignored the critics, tuned into my gut and built on the skills I developed in the last gig. Hell, I’m in the middle of another change myself. For the past year, I was on Sirius Satellite Radio with a daily call-in show and just 4 weeks ago – I launched my show into nation syndication on terrestrial radio. It’s been a big change, fraught with technology changes, scheduling disasters and a whole host of people who warned, “you’re not ready, Mel.” The fact is, I am ready. I’m ready because I said I am – and if you are contemplating a change, then you are ready too.

I would love to help you make that change. No joke.

Just send me an email to radio@melrobbins.com. Think of it as a free strategic brainstorming session with swift kick in the ass and many laughs along the way. My radio show is called

Make It Happen – you can find out more about it at Melrobbins.com. Take a listen – the show streams live everyday on Borders Book’s website at Bordersmedia.com.

Don’t just sit there. The meter is running. Do something – do anything. Remember when you were a kid and you’d scamper up a tree without realizing you’d gone too high (and forced yourself to figure out how the hell to save yourself!). It’s time you get yourself in a jam again. A good one.

Send me an email – and you’ll be shocked where it leads….

-Mel