3 Simple Ways to Get the Love You Want

In this episode, you’ll learn what true love really is, along with 3 simple ways to start getting the love you want. 

Today, you’ll learn the art & science of giving and receiving love.

You’ll get simple tools for all kinds of love: romantic relationships, friendships, family relationships, mentorship, and even the smallest, simplest daily acts of love.

You’ll also learn:

• The most controversial thing ever said on The Mel Robbins Podcast
• The truth about love (and an entirely new way to think about it)
• How to instantly shift any relationship for the better
• The #1 relationship study of all time: Mel breaks down the takeaways for you
• 3 things you can do, immediately after listening, to boost your happiness and well-being
• How the Law of Reciprocity creates a powerful ripple effect
• This person made a huge difference in Mel’s life (and will change yours, too)
• The secret to inspiring and motivating any person (yourself included) 

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In this episode, you'll learn:

• 1:32: The most controversial four-letter word Mel has ever said
• 3:33: Why you might have a hard time hearing it
• 5:00: The incredibly inspiring speech behind this word
• 9:50: Hearing these words was a spiritual experience for Mel
• 11:11: Here’s what happens when you give people hope
• 13:00: What the science says about the benefits of having a cheerleader
• 14:00: The science says the opposite is true when you don’t feel supported
• 16:30: You won’t find Mel’s definition of love in a dictionary
• 18:00: Can you love someone you don’t like?
• 21:30: What Mel texted to her UPS driver that she does not regret
• 25:00: Somebody doesn’t love what you do? Use this strategy
• 26:20: The powerful email Mel received that broke her heart
• 27:00: Mel responds to John, who asks why she signs out the way she does
• 29:20: This listener sent a doozy of a message, and this might be why
• 37:20: Try this one short activity to bring more love into your life
• 39:00: The #1 reason you struggle with deep connection, according to research
• 40:00: Do this practice, even with a perfect stranger
• 44:!5: How the Law of Reciprocity creates a positive ripple effect
• 45:50: The best thing to do to improve ANY relationship
• 46:30: It doesn’t cost anything to give the gifts we all want most
• 48:10: It may be uncomfortable, but do this today and you won’t regret it
• 50:00: The incredible gift Mel’s friend received from his father on his deathbed
• 53:30: The bloopers you love!

Resources and go deeper:

• Linda Cliatt-Wayman: website.
• Linda Cliatt-Wayman: TED Talk.
• Linda Cliatt-Wayman: Modern Hero.
• Harvard Graduate School of Education: The science of resilience.
• Harvard Center on The Developing Child: 8 things to remember about child development.
• Harvard Center on the Developing Child: The effect of neglect on a developing brain.
• The Harvard Study of Adult Development: website.
• The Harvard Study of Adult Development: The Good Life, Dr. R. Waldinger
• The Gottman Institute website.
• The Gottman Institute: The first duty of love is to listen.
• University of Chicago: Why talking to strangers will make you happier.
• Computers in Human Behavior: Smartphones reduce smiles between strangers.
• The High 5 Habit book, Mel Robbins
• The High 5 Habit audiobook, Mel Robbins

Want more episodes like this one? Check these out:

• The One Science-Backed Habit You Need This Year
• Why Do I Love the Way That I Love: The 4 Attachment Styles Explained
• A Toolkit for Love: How to Find It, Keep It, and Let It Go