3 Ways To Brainwash Yourself for Success & A More Meaningful Life

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Welcome back. It's your friend Mel, and today I'm teaching you three ways to brainwash yourself for greater success in a more meaningful life. And I'm using the research from Dr. Bernard Bitman at the University of Virginia who is the number one researcher on the science of synchronicities. And I'm using that research to teach you three skills that you can master. These are skills I use every single day, and you better believe I also use this to build momentum and to create massive success. Now, before we went to the break, I asked you to think about some area of your life where you would love to see a sign, some sort of confirmation that you're on the right track or about a decision that you're making, okay, that it's the right decision. And as we continue talking, I want you to hold on that so that you can make what you're learning today deeply personal and relevant to something that matters to you.

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And I want to give you a super simple example of what I'm talking about. This is something you can start practicing today to state it and claim it. Okay? So let's just take an example that you can relate to. Let's say that you're at the store, you're at the supermarket, and holy cow, it's a long line. I mean really long line, and you're standing at this supermarket in line, and boy you wish another line would just open up. Here's how you're going to use this first skill. You're going to state what you want. So as you're standing in this long line, and I want you to just put yourself there, I mean you've got a cart full of stuff, there are probably seven people in front of you. You're thinking to yourself, oh my gosh, why are they have so few people working? When are they going Stop.

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You have a superpower. State what you want. Stand there and say to yourself, I want a line to open up. It's really that simple. I want a line to open up. And then when it happens, don't just shrug your shoulders and go, ah, that's a coincidence. I guess I'm lucky. No claim it. Put a smirk on your face and say to yourself, check that out. I made that happen. That's pretty cool. That's not a coincidence. Claim ownership for creating the energy shift and creating that magic. And this is hard, but here's what I want you to understand about the unexplainable or quantum nature of all this. See, when you're standing there with your cart full of stuff and there's seven people in front of you, and the line is snaking all the way back down into the aisles and everybody else around you is getting agitated and starting to complain, and you have the guts and the clarity and the confidence to state with intention, I want to line to open up.

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You set something in motion. See, right now, you're not using this power correctly. I want you to start stating what you want before it happens. I have this story to share with you. 

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And as I stated it, I want to find a red and white quilt in the traditional shaker style. I could picture it in my mind. I knew exactly where I wanted it to go in my house. And as I started to walk toward the market, I kept stating to myself, I'm going to find that quilt today. Not I want it. I'm going to find a red and white antique shaker style quilt. And by stating it, I am setting something powerful in motion. Now, I looked all day, I mean, we must have walked 40,000 steps. I looked at vendor after vendor and quilt after quilt, and there were lots of shaker quilts, lots of red and white ones, but nothing really hit me.

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But I kept saying, I am going to find the perfect red and white antique shaker quilt. I just knew it. I stated it. I kept stating it, and we were getting near the end of the day and we're heading back to the car and we're passing some of the final stalls as people are packing things up. And all of a sudden I notice, wait a minute, there's a quilt. I see it folded up underneath those cutting boards over there. Let's go check that out. So we walk over, we remove the cutting boards off the top of this thing, and my mom and I start to unfold it, and it was really cool. But here's the thing, it had some stains on it. It was kind of tattered, like some of the squares were pulling off. And the person that was working the booth walks up and said, now this is a very rare antique quilt because this is considered a wedding quilt.

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And I said, well, what is that? And they said, well, in this town, it was the tradition that everybody in the town when somebody got married would sign the names of all the people that were attending the wedding for the young couple that was getting married. And so here I am, my mom and I, we've got the quilts all unfolded, and we're looking at it, and I'm kind of looking past the stains and the tears, and you could notice all this handwriting on the white squares. And it literally, I'm not kidding, looked like you know that handwriting from the Declaration of Independence, that super scripty thing that looks like somebody wrote it with a feather. And my mom's going, oh my God, look at this old fashioned cursive. This is just so cool. And I'm like, yeah, look at some of the names. And all of a sudden as I started looking closer, holy cow, the last names on the quilt over and over and over, Sawyer Sawyer, Joseph Sawyer, Emily Sawyer, Sarah Sawyer, Frederick Sawyer, the hair on my arm stood straight up.

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My mom was like, oh my gosh, Sawyer's name is all over this quilt. We have to buy this. This is unbelievable. I'm sure the quilt dealer doubled the price in his mind in that moment, but there is zero doubt that I was meant to find that quilt. I mean, here's the thing. Is it a coincidence that I look all day and underneath cutting boards heading to the car, I spot a quilt out of the corner of my eye. We unfold it, and I look past the tears and the stains after rejecting quilts all day long only to find out that my daughter's name Sawyer, is the last name of half the people who have signed this quilt as a wedding gift 200 years ago for somebody. That is not a coincidence. I made that happen. I stated what I wanted when I got out that car eight hours before I kept stating what I wanted all day long, even though it wasn't happening, I kept stating what I wanted even when the quilt was in my hands, and I believed with every ounce in my body that it was going to happen, and I made it happen.

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I was meant to find this exact quilt at this exact time while I was with my mom visiting from Michigan, wearing my daughter whose name is Sawyer, which is half of the names that were on this 200 year old quilt that stating it, set this in motion. And here is how you can start to apply step one before you go shopping anywhere and you're pulling up to someplace and you don't know exactly what they have in stock. So let's say you're pulling up to a Marshall's or a TJ Maxx or a flea market or garage sale, I want you to take a beat and create a little scavenger hunt for yourself. This is how you tap into the superpower, okay? 

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And then all of a sudden Jane calls to her from clear across the store and says, mom, mom, I found the rack. Amy heads over to her. She gets there. It's like a pathetic sad rack, but Amy was setting things in motion. We are going to find this dress. I just have this feeling. This is going to happen. We're going to do this. They go through the whole rack, absolutely nothing. Amy was even trying to sell Jane on a few of them. Jane's like, Nope, nope, nope, nope, nope. Amy's not giving up. We're going to find that dress. And all of a sudden she looks out of the corner of her eye, couple racks over, there's a bunch of pajamas. Guess what? She spots in the middle of the pajamas. That's right. There was a dress there that someone had randomly stuck on the pajama rack.

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So Amy darts on over, and it was as if the dress that Jane had at home, the one that she loved, it was as if all of the little birds and mice and Cinderella came in with their bows and their ribbons and made it even better just like that. It's this halter dress with a circle at the top, and it was black. And Jane was like, oh, I don't know. And Amy said, we got to try it on. And now Amy's like, we found the dress. We found the dress. The dressing room was closed. Coincidence, I don't think so. Not when you set something in motion. She can't try it on, which means what the universe is telling her, this is your dress trust. Take it home and try it on. And sure enough, when they got home and Jane put on the dress, it was exactly what she had wanted.

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So did Amy create all that? Of course she did. She set that in motion. And this is way more than a story about buying a dress. This is way more than a story about how you create a successful shopping trip. Did you hear the meaning in the story how much richer that scavenger hunt became when you walk in with this spirit that everything is working out for you without the skill of stating what you want and then knowing that you're setting something powerful in motion? Not only would this not have happened because they wouldn't have seen the dress over on the PJ Rack, but it opens you up to experience life at a completely different way, and right now you're walking by opportunities that you're not even open to and they're all around you. That's why this is so cool. Here's another way that you can start practicing using it.

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So anytime you go to a networking event or a party or any place where you're going to meet new people, I want you to practice stating what you want before you walk in. I'm going to meet somebody really cool tonight. I'm going to meet somebody that can help me with this job search. I'm going to meet somebody who can help me raise money for this company. I'm starting. I'm going to meet somebody that needs to buy a house, and I'm a real estate agent who is looking for customers. Set it in motion, set it in motion by stating what's going to happen before it happens. And then when it happens, claim it. I made that happen. I made that happen. The point here is to brainwash your mind to believe that something good is going to happen before it does. Because when you do that, your mind conspires to help you.

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That's how you unlock the power of it. Your mind spots the dress on the pajama rack. It spots the quilt underneath the cutting boards. It zeroes in on the one person standing in the corner who has this interesting vibe about them, and you don't know why it is, but for some reason you feel pulled to walk over to 'em and you've said you're going to meet the person that you need to meet and they turn out to be the exact person that you needed to meet, and you sell them the house or they introduce you to the person at the company that you've always wanted to interview at. And look, do you always find the dress? No. Do you always meet somebody who happens to know somebody that you needed to? Maybe not, 

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How is that going to help you meet people that could change the course of your career or your business or your life? See, I think you're so afraid to want something and not have a turnout that you stop yourself from setting it in motion. You won't even allow yourself to state and declare that it's going to happen. And when you don't do that, you close yourself off to everything that's possible. See, I'm teaching you right now how to stand in the present moment and start to connect dots forward to see the path, to see that the world and the universe and the powers that be have your back and are conspiring to guide you. Another cool thing about learning how to do this is you can also do this in reverse. If you really look back on your past with an honest look, you'll see how all the dots of your life connect you to this moment.

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For example, you can see now in this moment why that painful breakup had to happen, why that school you got rejected from had to happen. If that breakup hadn't happened, you would never have met the love of your life. You would never have faced the things that you needed to heal in yourself if that relationship had not ended. And you can also look backwards and find these moments where you now realize, oh my God, even back then, even back then, my life was trying to guide me because I just knew that that relationship had to end six months before it did. I just knew I was making the right decision. You know those moments where you can look in the past and you're like, oh my God, I just know it in my bones. That's a moment of synchronicity because when you just know it's true, you are finding meaning in something where nobody else does.

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He set that in motion without him stating it, without him having that just new, he felt something and he gave the feeling he felt when he walked on that campus, meaning, this is the place for me. You have had those experiences in your life. Maybe you just knew that a certain person was the right person, they were your person, or you just knew, oh my God, I got to get out of this situation. You left and found another job, and next thing you know, the company folds. You didn't get on the train and everybody got sick on the train and you didn't know why. You couldn't explain why, but you just knew. See, when you stand in this moment and you look backwards and you see these just no moments, that's also evidence of deep synchronicity happening in your life, that your life is telling you something that things aren't a coincidence, and when you state it and then you claim it, that's skill number one.

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Whether you're practicing this before you walk into a store or a meeting or you're just going through your day-to-day life saying, I'm going to get confirmation today about this decision. I'm going to see a sign whether it's a number or an animal or a song, or I'm going to see a tattoo, or somebody's going to say something, something's going to happen. And the reason why it happens is because you set it in motion by saying, I'm going to get confirmation. Now, the second skill of this positive brainwashing, now that you understand that you got to state it and then you got to claim it when it happens, is mastering your energy and using it to your advantage. And I am going to explain exactly what I mean by that because this exponentially increases your success with this skill. You set it in motion and holy cow, what I'm about to teach you with your energy creates a tidal wave.

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So don't you dare go anywhere because I'm going to teach you how to create one in your own life when we return. Hey, it's Mel, and you know what? I want you to stop thinking about what you want and watching videos on YouTube and actually go out into your life and do something about it because action is the answer and the first action you should take is jump into my brand new free training. It's called Make It Happen. This training gives you the tools to go from thinking to doing. It's packed with science. It comes with a free workbook, and it's exactly what you need right now. More than half a million people are taking it, and the fact is, you do have the power to change your life, and I want to help you. All you have to do is click in the link in the caption or go to mel robbins.com/make it happen.

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It's free. You jump right in. I'm going to be your coach. I created it for you. Why wouldn't you take this opportunity to make your life better? Go do it. Do not miss out on the life you could be living. Let's make it happen together. Welcome back. It's your friend, Mel. I am so happy you are here. I love this topic so much and I love all of the stuff that you experience when you learn the three skills that help you brainwash yourself in a positive way so you can experience greater success and deeper meaning in your life. You deserve this. Please make sure you share this with people. The other thing that's really cool about this topic is that the more that you're around people that also do this, the more you amplify each other. So this is a great thing to share with people that you love.

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Sure you can do step one when you're in that state grumbling and looking at your phone. You can state a line is going to open up, but if you keep looking at your phone and you allow yourself to stay angry and frustrated, it's not going to happen because your energy doesn't match what you just set in motion. See, you can state a line's going to open up, but if your energy is frustration, it blocks it from happening. So you not only have to be able to stand in that line and state that a line is going to open up, this is going to get moving, but then you have to align how you feel in that moment with it actually happening. This is what I mean by mastering your energy. Researchers call this high vitality, but I want you to think about it in a common sense way.

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Okay, so lemme ask you a question. Does the energy that you're feeling right now, is it consistent with the thing that you stated actually happening? Because if it isn't consistent with the line opening up or you finding the dress or the quilt magically appearing or you getting the job interview, if it's not consistent with that happening, you got to change it. And here's how you can hack it. Now, just imagine that it's happening, right? The line opens up, you find the dress, you meet someone at the event who literally works at the place that you want to have a job interview at. How are you going to feel? How are you going to feel when you spot that dress, the perfect Cinderella dress over on the pajama rack like you want the lottery? How are you going to feel when the line right next door to you opens up and three people pull out of your line and then you scoot up in your line and magically everything's moving again here to feel freaking great?

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Awesome. Bring that energy to how you feel right now. I'm dead serious about this. Before you walk into the store, I want you to not only state that you're going to find the perfect dress, I want you to feel the energy of what it's going to feel like when you do before you go into the networking event. I want you to not only state that you're going to meet the perfect person tonight that is going to help you. I want you to feel the energy of what it feels like to meet somebody who has the perfect connection for your job search. And as you're standing at the grocery store in this line, a mile long with a cart full of stuff that you need in order to get home, to make for dinner, and you state that line next door is going to open up.

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And so I want to give you a little hack that I used in the very beginning to start to build the skill of quickly mastering your energy and learning how to shift it. Very, very simple. Just listen to music, okay? Seriously, this really works like a charm. When you're done listening to this, 

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There you are standing in line at the grocery store, pop in the earbuds, put on the playlist, shift your energy, state what you want. Boom, you're in alignment, superpowers engaged. You can play it as you're driving to the store thinking about the dress that you are going to find. You can play it as you're going to the networking meeting, thinking about how cool it's going to be when you meet that person who's going to introduce you to that person. And all this stuff is going to fall in your lap. This is going to be incredible. And as you're listening to the music and you feel your energy shift, pay attention to that shift. It feels a certain way because if you can create it while you're listening to the music, you can then teach yourself how to create it even if you're not listening to it.

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And that's what I do all the time when I state something and I put it in motion, I master my energy and I set that tidal wave in its direction. And energy alignment is what amplifies your success and the meaning that you're going to feel as you're doing it. And that brings me to the third skill that pulls it all together. 

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And an eagle has always symbolized my father-in-law can. How cool is it a coincidence? Absolutely not. How cool that he showed up on her 25th birthday? How fricking cool? And I also want you to start practicing this on days that are not important because that will take this skill of find a bigger meaning to a much more profound level. So let's go back to the example of your mom and a hummingbird so that I can explain this to you. I want you to say that you're going to see a sign from your mom today so that you set it in motion and that brainwashes you in a positive way. It unlocks the power of your brain to help you look for it. The second thing you're going to do is align your energy. What does that mean? That means I want you to master an energetic shift and go through the day to day expecting to see it, like how cool is it going to be when you see that hummingbird?

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Maybe you're going to see the hummingbird in real life. Maybe you'll see one on social media, maybe you'll see it in a magazine or it'll be on a tattoo on the person that is working in the restaurant tonight, or maybe the restaurant tonight. Their special dessert is hummingbird cake, which happens to be my father's favorite cake, which means in my mind, he must be thinking about me right now. Hi dad. And when it happens, allow it to be a sign of something bigger, of a bigger meaning in your life that a force is guiding you, whether that force is your higher self and intuition, or there's a religious connotation or a spiritual one or a person in your life who's passed on because this force is there and it is guiding you. And using these three tools, you can strengthen your connection to it, not just on important days, but you can make every day feel more important because you do.

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And that will create more success and more meaning in your day-to-day life. I can give you another example of how I have used these three skills. 

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I wanted to give up. I wanted to just fold it in right there. I just could not believe it. But let me tell you what I did. I used the three steps that I just taught you to tap into something bigger, to brainwash myself in this moment when there was nothing but evidence around me that this was a disaster. And the first thing that I did is I kept stating what I wanted. This is going to be a bestseller. This is going to be a bestseller. This is going to be a bestseller. This is going to be a bestseller. And then I kept every single day, oh my God, I kept trying to master my energy to align with that goal. Okay, let's just fast forward a year when this is a bestseller. How are you going to feel? And I kept tapping into it, and I would wake up every single day and I would do step number three.

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There must be something bigger going on. There has to be something bigger going on that I cannot see. There is no way that I work this hard. I'm a good person. There's no way that this doesn't work out. I refuse to believe that, and I just kept stating it. I kept stating The five second rule is going to be a bestseller. Even though you can't buy the hardcover right now, the five second rule is going to be a bestseller. Even though I screwed up all the marketing, the five second rule is going to be a bestseller for that month. I just kept on marketing the book, even though you couldn't buy, I kept delivering my speeches. I would wake up every day and the feelings of failure and depression and anxiety and embarrassment would be there, and I would flip on the music and I would shake that off, and I would turn on the energy to match this belief that this book somehow some way was going to be a bestseller.

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And I kept reminding myself, something bigger must be happening. And these three skills kept me going. There were no signs for 30 days straight, no hummingbirds, no eagles, no angel numbers, no nothing. But I believed something bigger must be happening. And sure enough, 30 days later, something bigger revealed itself. See, because my traditional book launch had failed and nobody could buy the hardcover, I, everyone had bought the audio book from Audible and a month into my book launch using the three skills that I just explained to you to brainwash myself in the middle of a professional crisis and business disaster. I kept going. I kept waking up and moving forward, I kept acting consistently with what I had said in motion. And I learned that my audiobook had become a bestseller on Audible. And not only that, the five second Rule has gone on to become the most successful self-published audiobook in the history of Audible.

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And it also led to an unprecedented partnership that my production company 1 4 3 Studios has with Audible. In fact, we're in the middle of our seventh original production with Audible in less than four years, none of which would've happened had that computer system at Amazon been working properly, all of which, by the way, was meant to happen. And I set in motion. I set in motion because I stated it would be a bestseller. I mastered my energy and aligned it with the belief that it would, and by relentlessly reminding myself that something bigger was happening for me. And that's what kept me going. And because I kept going, it kept people going to Amazon, which kept people buying the audio book, which I didn't even know was happening, and the rest is history. There's a totally different way to go through life to approach your business and your career, and it begins with these three simple steps.

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State it, state what's going to happen, and then claim it when it does master your energy, align it with what you want, and it creates a tidal wave that makes it happen. And keep finding the bigger meaning because it's there just waiting for you to tap into it. Your life and your mind and your spirit is conspiring to help you. And using these three steps, you can unlock all of that power inside of you to create it. And in case no one else has told you today, let me be the first person to say that I love you and I believe in you, and I believe in your ability to not only create a better life, but to tap into this superpower and experience greater success and a much more meaningful life too. I cannot wait to hear what you do with this one. Alrighty, I'll talk to you in a few days and thank you so much for being here on YouTube.

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