How to Change Your Life in 6 Months: This One Hack Will Make It Happen

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How have your relationships or your friendships changed? Are you making more money? Has your health changed? Are you happier? Where are you? Did you move? I really want you to stop and visualize it. What do you want to make happen in the next six months of your life? 

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And these, by the way, are the same five categories that you used when we did the best year planning workshop because these are the categories that make up your whole life. And those categories are health and wellness. What do you want to make happen as it relates to your health and wellness in the next six months? Second category, career, money, school. What do you want to make happen? You may be starting a new school, you may be starting a new career. Has your business taken off? Third category, relationships, love, friendship. What's going on in that area of your life six months from now?

 

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Happiness. I love this category like hobbies and how you feel and your daily habits and what it's like at your home. Are you happier? God, I hope you're happier. And the final category as you really sit and contemplate that question, what do I want to make happen in the next six months of my life? Purpose, spirituality, meaning just really allow yourself to travel ahead. Here's a couple things that jump out for me. When I think about six months from now, and it's October and I'm 56 and Chris and I are empty nesters. So in the area of happiness, that one kind of jumped out first for me. When I go ahead. Six months, 

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But here's what jumped out for me with happiness. So I live in southern Vermont and we have lived in this house that we have renovated, and I just love this place. And now we've lived here full-time for two years. Do you know there is not a single framed photo of anyone in my family on any wall of this house? And if I'm being perfectly honest, if I float through and I think about countertops or kind of those nice side tables that people have or shelves, I don't have any photos there either. I mean, we've been living in this house for two years and there's this one wall that is over a bench that we have in this breakfast area off the kitchen. And when we designed the house, you know what I always imagined? I imagined one of those beautiful picture walls. I don't know if you've ever been in somebody's house or maybe this is your house where you have one of those walls that is just so beautiful where it's matching frames and everything's lined up and it's great photos of the family.

 

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I have always wanted a photo wall of the family. And when we designed the house, I'm like, I am going to hang photos there. Well, guess what? I've been thinking about that for two years and it hasn't happened. Why? Because things don't happen by accident. They happen because you make them happen. And so one thing I really do want to wake up and see that I have done in the next six months, it's going to make me happier, especially when Chris and I are empty nesters, is to walk into the breakfast area of the kitchen in October and see that that wall is done. That would make me happier for real. Let me give you another example of something that comes to mind for me in the area of relationship, love and friendship. When I time travel ahead six months, what do I want to make happen in that area of my life?

 

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This is very, very clear for me. I want to look back on these last six months and see that I spent a ton of time with our son Oakley because I feel that I am in that moment. 

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I want to spend more time with my parents. In fact, my dad has just gone through this situation where three of his friends have had these catastrophic things happen, two have died suddenly, and one of them fell downstairs and broke just about every single bone. And we know that that is a horrible thing to have happen. And my dad is turning 80 this year, and I want to spend more time with my parents in the next six months. I have to make that happen, and it's not going to happen by accident. It happens on purpose.

 

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The next category, if I travel ahead six months is career money or school. I've got so much I want to do there, but what I got to do first is take a short break so we can hear a word from our amazing sponsors. But here's what's going to happen. I'm going to be waiting for you after the break. I want you to continue to think about that question. What do you want to make happen in the next six months of your life? And when we return, I'm going to share what I want to see happen in my life, what I'm going to make happen I should say in my career because it's some pretty big stuff and I know it's going to inspire you to think big too. So stay with me. We'll be right back. Hey, it's your friend Mel, and I've been thinking it's time that you and I take our relationship to the next level.

 

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This may be a little bit forward of me, but I've got a gift that I want to give you. I've been working on this for a little while. It's a brand free two-part video training that I created for you using principles of physics and neuroscience and all kinds of research to help you go from thinking about what you want to actually making it happen. See, I want you to not only be inspired here on social media, 

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Welcome back. It's your friend Mel Robbins, and I'm so thrilled that you're here. You're listening to a workshop about how you can make some amazing things happen in the next six months, that by October when you look up, you will see things that you've done that make you so proud. And I've been asking you over and over this one question that's going to determine what happens in your life over the next six months. What do you want to make happen? Imagine that it's October and I want you to think about your career and think about money or think about school and allow yourself to drift to October and look up what have you done that you're proud of. For me, when I think about where I am in October, holy smokes, I am going to publish my next book, the Let Them Theory. Yep. I'm writing a book about the Let Them Theory and it's coming out in mid-September, which means six months from now, I am going to be in the middle of a massive book launch.

 

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And that doesn't happen by accident. I got to plan for success just like you need to plan for success. So that's going to have to be something I'm journaling about in this workbook. I got to get going on that. That's going to take a lot of work, and if you want more success in your career or in school, it's going to take work. And so let's start today in making that happen. Here's another thing I think about. I don't know if I've talked about this on the podcast or not with you guys, but I have this desire to launch a product company in the women's health space. I mentioned that I'm in this super confusing supplement routine for my hormone balance. It's working, but it's so confusing that it has lit this fire inside me that I'm like, I got to do something about this. I got to simplify. I got to figure out something in this space to help everybody translate this confusing expert advice and all this supplement stuff like I got to do something 

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Here's what I'm realizing. I don't really care about saving money right now because I have too much going on, and the fact is I have been saving money for years. I mean, I'm like a squirrel hoarding my nuts. I have been squirreling away money because I'll tell you something, if you've ever faced bankruptcy, I have. 

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Is there something that you created as a goal at the beginning of the year that you're realizing now that it's April? You're like, I actually don't really care about that. I just kind of said that and I cared about it then, but the truth is life has changed or I realize the work that it's going to take and I'm being honest with myself. Why have something on your list that you have no desire to make happen? So here's another takeaway, your friend Mel Robbins, I'm giving you permission right now as you go through your workbook, mel robbins.com/make it happen. As you go through this workbook, there is a page in here where you can list out the things that were once a priority that are just not a priority anymore. That is a moment of honesty that you need to have with yourself. Clear away the guilt, seriously clear it off your to-do list, take it out of the best year goals and create room for something that you care about that you actually will make happen.

 

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And let me tell you why this matters. It matters because it's so easy to find yourself lulled into this kind of robotic autopilot mode in your life where one day blends into the next and it's basically get up, go to work, come home, make dinner, clean the kitchen, go to bed, get up, go to work, come home, make dinner, clean the kitchen, go again. It's just like, what the hell? You've already forgotten what it is that you cared about. You're so exhausted. Next thing you know, you're like, wait, four months have gone by six. It's October already, and I didn't even do anything not happening to you. Defining a game worth playing over the next six months will create meaning and excitement in your life. Sometimes the only thing that's missing from your life is a project that's worth getting out of bed for. I mean, think about it.

 

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When you have a kid that's playing a sport, right, and they're like driving towards the championship and a winning season, you're driving towards something and the fact that they're playing that big game of having a winning season, that creates excitement and meaning. When you're planning a wedding, when you're looking for a new apartment, when you're training for a marathon, when you're taking a class, it creates excitement and meaning, and don't look at these things that you want to make happen as a chore. That's not what the next six months of your life is about. You get to choose. This is an opportunity to infuse the next six months of your life with something better, something worth getting out of bed for, something worth not getting lulled into that, oh, get up and go to work, and I just see the same old shit all the time.

 

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And look, you want to know what's so cool is that I've only covered the first few pages of the workbook for real. As I've asked you to time travel, as I've asked you to consider this question over and over and over again, what do you want to make happen in the next six months of your life? Think about these categories and the workbook is going to take you even deeper. This is such a gift to give to yourself and look, I could keep going, but here's what I can feel. I can already feel your desire to download the workbook. I can feel your desire to start imagining some kind of project that you can take on and design for yourself. Something is going to make the next six months just awesome, something that you want to make happen. And look, it could be something that is kind of simple and crafty like my photo wall.

 

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Do you know how happy I'm going to be that I actually made that happen and it's going to take a lot more work than you would think. I got to pick the photos. I got to figure out the measurement. I got to figure out the, it actually will take time. It sounds kind of stupid, but it doesn't matter if it sounds stupid to you. This is something that matters to me, and this is really important. If you want the next six months of your life to be awesome, you got to pick something that is personally important to you that if you were to work on it and see yourself chip away at it, it would give your life a sense of purpose. It would create some momentum. It would really infuse you with this energy and this enthusiasm. That's why this matters. Yes, we're going to talk all about how you translate this project into action, but first, I got to get you to start dreaming a little bit.

 

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I got to get you to define what would really help you come alive. And so here's how this is going to work. The second you go to mel robbins.com/make it happen, you will see a little video from me welcoming you. You will get a copy of the workbook right there, and I've even taken the steps with my amazing team. You can download it, you can print it. We even have a low ink format. This is bright green and really colorful. You can do one in black and white or we've created an electronic format for you too, all for free. That's all you have to do to be registered for this free workshop. Just go to mel robbins.com/make it happen. And then what's going to happen is there are two in-depth video trainings and those video trainings will help you translate this into action. I'm going to walk you through all the remaining exercises in the workbook, in those videos, and I'm going to teach you a bunch of principles, some that are strategies that business consultants use with some of the top companies in the world.