How to Read Body Language to Get What You Want: 6 Simple Psychological Tricks to Be More Confident

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Today, you are getting a step-by-step guide to overcoming any challenge that comes your way. 

Do you want to know how to talk to anyone with ease and confidence? 

In this episode, you will learn science-backed psychological tricks to be more successful, charismatic, and influential today.

Vanessa Van Edwards is the founder of The Science of People, a behavior lab that studies high achievers and the science of confidence and body language.

Her research proves that anyone can learn these practical skills and become a more successful person by using the same simple habits that almost every high achiever has.

Whether you want to be a better leader, land your dream job, achieve big goals, or align your life with what you want, this is the episode for you.

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 If you liked this research-packed episode, you’ll love hearing Vanessa’s other appearance on the podcast: Research From Princeton: 13 Proven Hacks That Boost Your Influence & Make You More Confident

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In this episode:

• 3:15: The shortcuts high achievers take to communicate effectively.
• 4:20: High performance is not the same as burnout.
• 6:00: The mistake most people make when working on their goals.
• 8:50: These relationships are the most toxic ones.
• 13:00: What’s the Pygmalion Effect?
• 14:00: What makes some kids more popular than others will surprise you.
• 16:15: How to make your friendships stronger.
• 21:15: People who make mistakes are more likable.
• 25:00: How your toes give you away when you’re in a group.
• 27:20: Do this when you walk into a room to appear more confident.
• 35:00: Why your office chair should have arm rests and swivel.
• 41:00: Here’s why you are more likely to believe gestures than words. 
• 42:30: How to stop using vocal fry or get someone else to stop doing it.
• 45:30: Use these words to set your team up for success.
• 47:45: The one mistake nervous or introverted people make when communicating.
• 50:45: What to add to your calendar every day to keep you motivated.
• 54:30: What are the best conversation starters?
• 58:00: How other people’s fear is contagious.
• 1:00:30: The worst place to stand in a room when you’re at a party.
• 1:05:20: How to figure out what you’re really good at.
• 1:15:30: What do highly effective people do at the end of the day?

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Vanessa Van Edwards:

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• Vanessa Van Edwards: Richard Wiseman’s mall study
• Ness Labs: The pygmalion effect: an invisible nudge towards success
• Forbes: The “beautiful mess effect” in relationships
• TED: Your body language may shape who you are (Amy Cuddy)
• Kellogg School of Management: High performers can make you better at work
• Sage Journals: Higher performance and coping strategies to regulate burnout
• PBS NOVA: Fear is contagious (video)
• Springer: Foot cues can elicit covert orienting of attention
• Science of People: What is vocal fry and how to stop it