How to Read Body Language to Get What You Want: 6 Simple Psychological Tricks to Be More Confident


The Mel Robbins Podcast with Vanessa Van Edwards


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Do you want to know how to talk to anyone with ease and confidence? 

In this episode, you will learn science-backed psychological tricks to be more successful, charismatic, and influential today.

Vanessa Van Edwards is the founder of The Science of People, a behavior lab that studies high achievers and the science of confidence and body language.

Her research proves that anyone can learn these practical skills and become a more successful person by using the same simple habits that almost every high achiever has.

Whether you want to be a better leader, land your dream job, achieve big goals, or align your life with what you want, this is the episode for you.

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 If you liked this research-packed episode, you’ll love hearing Vanessa’s other appearance on the podcast: Research From Princeton: 13 Proven Hacks That Boost Your Influence & Make You More Confident

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In this episode:

  • 3:15: The shortcuts high achievers take to communicate effectively.
  • 4:20: High performance is not the same as burnout.
  • 6:00: The mistake most people make when working on their goals.
  • 8:50: These relationships are the most toxic ones.
  • 13:00: What’s the Pygmalion Effect?
  • 14:00: What makes some kids more popular than others will surprise you.
  • 16:15: How to make your friendships stronger.
  • 21:15: People who make mistakes are more likable.
  • 25:00: How your toes give you away when you’re in a group.
  • 27:20: Do this when you walk into a room to appear more confident.
  • 35:00: Why your office chair should have arm rests and swivel.
  • 41:00: Here’s why you are more likely to believe gestures than words. 
  • 42:30: How to stop using vocal fry or get someone else to stop doing it.
  • 45:30: Use these words to set your team up for success.
  • 47:45: The one mistake nervous or introverted people make when communicating.
  • 50:45: What to add to your calendar every day to keep you motivated.
  • 54:30: What are the best conversation starters?
  • 58:00: How other people’s fear is contagious.
  • 1:00:30: The worst place to stand in a room when you’re at a party.
  • 1:05:20: How to figure out what you’re really good at.
  • 1:15:30: What do highly effective people do at the end of the day?

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