How to Deal With Difficult People: One Trick to Live a More Peaceful & Fulfilled Life

Do you want to know how to deal with difficult people? 

What about if that difficult person in your life is a parent, boss, ex, child, or partner? 

Today, renowned psychologist and narcissism expert Dr. Ramani Durvasula is here to give you the tricks you need to master to live a more peaceful life.

This episode is your masterclass on how to identify and heal from toxic people.

Dr. Ramani will teach you how to not only deal with people who are disrespectful, passive aggressive, and can’t control their emotions, but also how to heal from the damage that they can cause you. 

She will show you how you can stay in your power and purpose no matter who you have to deal with in your life.  

You’ll learn how you can keep your goals, priorities, and happiness front and center, no matter what is happening around you.

If you liked this research-packed episode, you’ll love Dr. Ramani’s last appearance on The Mel Robbins Podcast: Signs You’re Dealing With a Narcissist (New Research From World-Leading Expert Dr. Ramani).

In this episode:

• 3:39: You know that difficult person in your life; let’s talk about it. 
• 6:33: How to set healthy boundaries with the people in your life. 
• 10:34: This conversation on narcissism is unlike anything you have ever heard. 
• 12:03: Do not make this one mistake in your relationships. 
• 14:01: If you are in a toxic relationship, I want you to hear this. 
• 15:35: Do you feel the need to impress your parents, even as an adult?
• 16:48: Stop trying to change the difficult people in your life. 
• 20:56: Why radical acceptance is your first step towards healing. 
• 22:28: Your biggest barrier to healing is this (it’s not what you think).
• 26:04: Why do people stay in unhealthy, toxic relationships?
• 27:50: We need to normalize grief in these specific situations. 
• 29:26: Is “closure” really the thing that we need when we end a relationship?
• 33:09: Dr. Ramani wants you to avoid this one type of relationship. 
• 35:41: The surprising function of rumination. 
• 40:05: What it looks like to be a survivor of narcissistic abuse. 
• 42:45: Watch out for the patterns in narcissistic relationships. 
• 47:25: What the “ick list” is and how it can help you overcome narcissistic abuse. 
• 50:10: Anybody can change; a narcissistic person won’t. 
• 54:19: What the 12-month cleanse is and why it is essential for healing. 
• 58:56: What if you cannot cut the narcissistic person out of your life? 
• 1:04:23: How to identify if you were a scapegoat for your parents. 
• 1:07:04: Are you a truth-teller or a truth-seer? 
• 1:14:35: How to handle co-parenting with a narcissist? 
• 1:24:13: How you can forgive yourself for being in an unhealthy relationship.

Dr. Ramani Durvasula, PhD

• Check out Dr. Ramani’s website.
• Order her book, It’s Not You.
• Subscribe to her YouTube Channel.
• Follow her on Instagram.
• Listen to her TEDx Talk.

Listen to Dr. Ramani’s other appearances on The Mel Robbins Podcast:

• 5 Signs You’re Dealing With a Narcissist & How To Protect Yourself
• 2 Secrets to Handling a Narcissist: A Toolkit for Dealing With Toxic Behavior
• Signs You’re Dealing With a Narcissist (New Research From World-Leading Expert Dr. Ramani)

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More resources:

• Memory: narcissism, memory, phenomenology of autobiographical memories.
• Self and Identity: The many faces of narcissism.
• Borderline Personality Disorder and Emotional Dysregulation: Living with pathological narcissism.
• Psychology Today: Why self-compassion may be the antidote to narcissism.
• Dr. Kristin Neff: Self-Compassion: Stop Beating Yourself Up & Leave Insecurity Behind (book)
• PsyPost: Childhood abuse increases risk of vulnerable narcissism.
• PsychCentral: Why unloved daughters fall for narcissists.
• Child Development Perspectives: Raising children with high self-esteem but not narcissism (Brummelman).
• Psychological & Cognitive Sciences: The origins of narcissism.
• Psypost: Research connects narcissism to grudge holding.
• American Academy of Child & Adolescent Psychiatry: “Failure to launch”: shaping intervention for highly dependent adult children.
• Scientific American: Failure to Launch Syndrome. 
• Psychology Today: How narcissistic triangulation gets people trapped. ‍
• Stanford School of Business: How narcissistic leaders destroy from within.