The Most Important Sex Advice No One Ever Told You: Revamp Your Sex Life in 10 Minutes

Do you want to have better sex?

Or even know how often you should be having sex – according to research?

Today, Dr. Rena Malik, MD is in the house to answer all of your uncomfortable sex questions.

Dr. Malik is an absolute powerhouse who is known for her viral, no-shame, straight-to-the-point advice on how to have the best sex of your life. 

She is a top urologist, pelvic surgeon, and sexual health expert – and she’s here today giving you the truth, based on medical research, on things like G-spots, orgasms, libido, and even erectile dysfunction. 

You’ll also learn the single biggest thing that you are getting wrong in your sex life, according to one of the top urologists in the country.

Dr. Malik is an assistant professor at the University of Maryland School of Medicine and the Director of Female Pelvic Medicine & Reconstructive Surgery. She is also a researcher who has published over 100 peer-reviewed research articles, multiple review articles, and book chapters.

You're going to want to share this conversation and all the juicy details with every one of your friends, and most importantly, your significant other.

Great sex starts today.

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In this episode:

• 5:55: What is sexual health?
• 7:25: The biggest thing that we get wrong about our bodies when it comes to sex.
• 9:42: How to get better at sex.
• 11:23: The average American has THIS much sex a year.
• 14:08: Sex should last this long.
• 15:42: Here’s why foreplay is important for most women before having sex.
• 19:58: The importance of looking at your own genitals in a mirror and what to look for.
• 25:39: Is the g-spot in women real?
• 28:38: THIS percent of women are not able to have an orgasm.
• 30:45: Do this to increase your chances of having an orgasm.
• 33:57: Squirting vs. Ejaculation: What’s the difference?
• 37:05: How women really feel about squirting and how to teach yourself to squirt.
• 42:29: Pain should never be normal during sex.
• 45:40: The truth about having good sex.
• 48:39: How to address what’s NOT working for you in the bedroom.
• 51:50: Initiating sex and being in the moment.
• 55:48: When testosterone (the hormone of desire) is the highest for men and women.
• 57:53: The truth about whether or not the penis shrinks with age.
• 1:01:16: Reasons people feel shame around sex.
• 1:02:57: Porn and its effect on sexual expectations between partners.
• 1:04:52: Mental health’s impact on your sex life.
• 1:07:57: Reclaiming your sexual health after experiencing trauma.
• 1:11:00: Masturbation techniques that can negatively affect men’s  sex life.
• 1:18:26: Three ways to boost testosterone.
• 1:21:56: If you take one thing away from this, let it be this.

Dr. Rena Malik: 

• Visit her website here.
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• Check out her podcast here.
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• And watch her on TikTok.
• Get her free e-book on overactive bladders here.

Resources:

• Healthcare (Basel): Sexual health & psychological wellbeing of women.
• The Gottman Institute: Talking about sex is more intimate than having sex.
• TEDx: Revamp your sex life in 6 minutes.
• The Guardian: The secret to great sex? It’s not what you think.
• International Society for Sexual Medicine: Women orgasm faster through masturbation.
• NBC News: New research helps explain why lesbian women report more orgasms.
• Dr. Rena Malik: Everything you need to know about female sexual anatomy.
• Glamour Magazine: Why can’t I orgasm? A neuroscientist explains.
• The Journal of Sexual Medicine: Nature and origin of ‘squirting’ in female sexuality.
• Clinical Anatomy: The difference between female squirting and ejaculation: a review.
• North American Menopause Society: Pain with penetration. 
• The New York Times: How to talk to your partner about sex.
• The Harvard Gazette: Can you be close without sex?
• The New York Times Magazine: Can a sexless marriage be a happy one?
• Scientific American: People have been having less sex, whether teens or 40-somethings.
• International Andrology London: A man’s penis changes with age.
• Journal of Behavioral Addictions: Effects of pornography on relationship dynamics.
• Utah State University: Effects of pornography on relationships.
• Dr. Rena Malik: Break the cycle of porn addiction.‍
• Journal of Sexual Addiction: How does childhood trauma impact women’s sexual desire?