3 Requirements of a Good Relationship

There are 3 powerful and fundamental truths that you need to accept about other people in order to live a better life.

Most people will never learn these 3 things.

Which is why today Mel is breaking them down, one by one, to give you a guide for better relationships.

These truths are hard to accept, but when you accept them, your life will get so much easier.

You are wasting so much time, energy, and attention trying to control other people.

And once you hear these 3 things, you will have more emotional peace, an understanding of yourself, and a better relationship with the people in your life. This is an encore episode with new and exciting insights from Mel at the top of the episode that is packed with tools, tips, and scripts to create more meaningful relationships.

If you liked this episode, listen to this powerful and tactical episode next: The “Let Them Theory”: A Life-Changing Mindset Hack That 15 Million People Can’t Stop Talking About‍

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In this episode:

• 2:08: Do you have someone in your life who you wish would change?
• 05:25: The 3 truths that you need to accept about other people.
• 09:12: If you want your loved one to be someone different, you need to hear this.
• 12:58: Do you feel constant frustration with the people around you?
• 17:20: Mel never unpacked this issue until she was 40.
• 19:53: Next time you offer your opinion, ask yourself these 2 questions.
• 24:27: How to manage your energy and feel better starting today.
• 28:24: You can’t make anyone else change, and here’s why.
• 31:30: What the 6-month rule is and how it will preserve your peace.
• 33:05: Do you get frustrated when people you love constantly complain?
• 35:57: The fastest way to get rid of struggle in your life is this.
• 39:25: How to accept others for where they are and not where they are going.
• 43:02: The importance of celebrating your wins without bragging.
• 46:45: Mel felt confronted when her husband started doing this.
• 50:05: The scientific reason why you think your opinion is the most important.
• 54:11: Simple scripts to talk to the ones you love with more understanding.

Additional Resources:

• Massachusetts Institute of Technology: Dr. Keith Stanovich: “The Bias That Divides Us”
• Scientific Advisory Board: Myside Bias, Rational Thinking, and Intelligence study
• The New Yorker: Why Facts Don’t Change Our Minds
• National Library of Medicine: Bias in bias recognition
• Peter Boghossian and James Lindsay: How to Have Impossible Conversations
• Kurt Lewi: 3-step model of change
• Berkeley’s Greater Good Center: Why Is It So Hard to Change People’s Minds?‍
• Harvard Business Review: Change Is Hard. Here’s How to Make It Less Painful