Communicate with Confidence: The Blueprint for Mastering Every Conversation
The Mel Robbins Podcast with Jefferson Fisher
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In today’s episode, you’re getting the blueprint for developing your communication skills. What you learn will boost your influence and make you more confident.
You and Mel are both learning from trial lawyer Jefferson Fisher, who is known for his straightforward advice, tips, and tricks on how to communicate better.
Jefferson is teaching you proven techniques to express yourself clearly, handle disrespect, and know what to say when someone challenges you, even in high-pressure situations.
He will also teach you:
- Why miscommunication happens (and how to avoid it)
- How you can use strategic communication to get what you want (without manipulation)
- And the 3 ways to express your thoughts so that everyone will understand you
If you’ve ever felt unsure of how to get your point across or wished you could be more confident when speaking, this episode is packed with tools you can use immediately to transform how you engage with others.
If you liked this tactical episode, listen to this episode next and learn how to use body language to boost your influence: How to Read Body Language to Get What You Want: 6 Simple Psychological Tricks to Be More Confident
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In this episode:
- 0:45: Do this instead of blaming your bad behavior on your stress.
- 4:30: What you say to others matters in a way you never thought of.
- 7:30: Ask yourself these questions to figure out what’s important to you.
- 9:30: What most of us get wrong about arguments.
- 11:15: The two BEST questions to ask before an argument starts.
- 15:45: Use this script when you’re about to have a hard conversation.
- 19:15: Mel’s favorite line that will boost anyone about to hear bad news.
- 23:15: How do you talk to someone you don’t like?
- 25:10: The surprising response to disarm a mean comment.
- 30:00: How to call out disrespect in other people you’re with.
- 32:50: Say this when you’re trying to get others to do something different.
- 38:00: How to be more confident when you have to speak in public.
- 42:30: Say this when you’re walking into a networking meeting.
- 45:00: Instead of asking, How are you?, try asking this instead.
- 49:15: Conversational goals vs. conversational values
- 55:54: The one question to ask yourself so that you live your best life.
- 58:20: How to be a stellar communicator at work and in life.
- 59:50: Make this change to communicate better with your family.
Resources:
Jefferson Fisher:
- Pre-order Jefferson’s book
- Jefferson’s podcast
- Jefferson’s Instagram
- Jefferson’s TikTok
- Jefferson’s YouTube
Additional Resources:
- Johns Hopkins Business School: What can 50 years of leadership communication research tell us?
- BBC: Is this the secret of smart leadership?
- Forbes: Empathy Is The Most Important Leadership Skill According To Research
- Stanford Business School: Communicating Through Conflict: How to Get Along with Anyone
- CNBC: Saying this 1 sentence will make you 19 percent more likable (and most people never do it)
- Harvard Business Review: How to Work with Someone You Really Don’t Like
- Preply: Study shows Americans are becoming less effective communicators
- Jefferson Fisher Free Download: Top 7 phrases to stand your ground in an argument
- Harvard University: 8 Ways You Can Improve Your Communication Skills
- National Library of Medicine: What Type of Communication during Conflict is Beneficial for Intimate Relationships?
- New York Times: The Cringey Communication Strategy Couples Counselors Love
- Washington Post: 8 Tips on Improving Workplace Communication
- BBC: Not all employers are tolerating Gen Z's laid-back language
- unicef.org: How to communicate effectively with your young child
- National Library of Medicine: Quality Matters More Than Quantity: Parent–Child Communication and Adolescents’ Academic Performance
- TedEd: How miscommunication happens (and how to avoid it)
- MasterClass: Strategic Communication 101: Tips for Strategic Communications
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