Episode: 300
This Life-Changing Conversation Will Help You Make Peace With Who You Are
with Mon Rovîa

This episode will change how you think about your past, your purpose, and what’s possible for your future.
Today, Mel sits down with singer-songwriter Mon Rovîa, whose breathtaking journey from war-torn Liberia, where he narrowly escaped becoming a child soldier, to the global stage will stop you in your tracks.
But this isn’t just about his story—it’s about what his story will awaken in you.
Adopted and raised in the U.S., Mon spent years trying to outrun his trauma. What followed was guilt, despair and a deep feeling of not belonging anywhere.
Until he realized he had a choice: He could stay stuck in suffering or turn his pain into power. His answer came through music, and what he’s created is reaching millions around the world. In fact, he's one of Mel's favorite artists.
But this isn’t just about Mon’s voice. It’s about what his story inspires in you.
Because if you’ve been carrying pain, guilt, or questions you can’t quite name, this is the conversation that helps you finally let go of all that.
You're meant to be here. It starts with you believing that every day, and then the world opens up.
Mon Rovîa
Transcript
Mel Robbins (00:00:00):
You're about to meet someone unlike any other guest who has ever been on the Mel Robbins podcast.
Mon Rovîa (00:00:06):
Life is full of suffering, but it doesn't take away from you belonging in it. Talking about my stories and the music, all I do it for is for you to know that your time here is meant crooked the road,
Mel Robbins (00:00:20):
His name is Mon Rovîa. You and I are going to be swept away not only by his story, but by his humility, his compassion, and the message that he is here to tell you today. It's a message that's going to leave you feeling loved, empowered, and clear man's life story sounds like a movie, and every bit of it is true. How do you process the survivor guilt?
Mon Rovîa (00:00:45):
Move from a place of blame to a place of, I think claiming this opportunity. It was a gift. If you stop now, you'll never know the groups of people that are waiting to bring you into that fold or the lives that you're going to impact in this life on this journey. And so I believe that you're meant to be here, and I hope you continue.
Mel Robbins (00:01:11):
I'm so proud of you.
Mon Rovîa (00:01:13):
Thank you.
Mel Robbins (00:01:14):
I don't know why I'm going to cry, but I'm so proud of you. Hey, it's friend Mel, and welcome to the Mel Robbins podcast. I am on the edge of my seat. I am so excited for our conversation today. I'm excited that you're here. It is always such an honor to spend this time together, but today, the fact that I get to meet somebody that I've admired at the same moment you get to meet them, that is just a thrill. And if you're new to the podcast, I wanted to personally take a moment and welcome you to the Mel Robbins podcast family. I'm so glad that you're here with me right now. And because you made the time to listen to this particular episode today, here's what I know about you. First of all, I know that you value your time, so it means a lot to me that you made the decision to hit play and you're going to be so happy that you did because something magical is about to happen.
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And if you're listening right now because someone shared this conversation with you, it's because I was right. Something magical did happen in this episode and they wanted you to experience it too. And so does my incredible guest today, Mon Rovîa Mon Rovîa is a phenomenon, a one of a kind musician from Tennessee who has carved out time from a busy touring schedule to be here for this special conversation. You and I are going to be swept away not only by his story, but by his humility, his compassion, and the message that he is here to tell you today. It's a message that's going to leave you feeling loved, empowered, and clear's. Life story sounds like a movie, and every of it is true. Mon grew up carrying a history and feelings that he couldn't fully explain until he found music. And now his music is finding people all over the world.
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I mean, just look at his TikTok. His videos have 17 million likes and a bunch of them, they're from me. And what he's creating doesn't just cross genres. It crosses continents, generations, and life experiences. Man blends his Afro Appalachian roots with raw personal storytelling, a sound so distinct, so grounding and folksy singer songwriter. It earned him a spot on Spotify's 2024 Juniper artist to watch list. He now reaches over 1.5 million monthly listeners on the platform, proof that his voice is resonating way beyond the stage and a Mon Rovîa concert that is something to behold. He's sold out every headline show he's ever played. He's taken the stage of Bonnaroo Austin City Limits and the legendary Newport Folk Festival This year. This rising star is going global with a sold out European tour that he just completed, and us appearances at major festivals, including Boston calling and a return to Newport. I mean, this guy is a rising star, but more importantly, there is so much wisdom not only in his music, but in his life story and what he wants to share with you today that you can take whatever has happened to you in the past and make something beautiful out of it. So please help me welcome Mon Rovîa to the Mel Robbins podcast. Mon Rovîa, I am so excited to meet you in person. Thank you for jumping on a plane. Thank you for being here. Congratulations on all your success. I'm so excited to talk to you.
Mon Rovîa (00:04:48):
Oh, it's a complete honor, and yeah, I'm really just stoked to be in this place with you right now. So thank you so much for giving me space to tell my story.
Mel Robbins (00:04:59):
I would love to start by having you speak to the person who is with us right now. This is somebody who doesn't have a lot of time, but they have hit play. They're making the time to learn from your story, to learn from your wisdom. What might they experience that could be different about their life if they truly take to heart all of the wisdom and lessons that you're about to teach us from your own life journey?
Mon Rovîa (00:05:27):
Yeah, I think something that I hope for, just that one person is to know that life is full of suffering, but it doesn't take away from you belonging in it that you have such an amazing part to play in the scheme of things. So yeah, I mean, talking about my stories and the music, all I do it for is for you to know that your time here is meant.
Mel Robbins (00:05:54):
How do you cultivate that belief? And I'm sure we're going to get into it. If you're in a place in your life where you are really suffering, how do you get yourself to believe that you're meant to be here and that there's something bigger for you?
Mon Rovîa (00:06:11):
I think it comes back to memory, and if you can think of your life and the things you've already come through and you're still standing regardless if you're on the floor, you're still here present with us, and memory is an important part of the art of continuation. Knowing that you've come through things already and believing that you will again until you get to that place where maybe you're more fulfilled and strengthened is the ways I've kept myself going forward.
Mel Robbins (00:06:42):
For somebody who is just meeting you for the first time, I was introduced to you through a very, very dear friend of mine. I have been following you online for 18 months. I'm so proud of you. Thank you. Your music does feel like waking up from a dream. It immediately makes my shoulders drop. I'm so excited to see you exploding in terms of popularity and the recognition for your music. But for the person who hasn't heard you sing, has not heard your music, does not know your story, how would you describe the music that you create and the kind of artistry that you're putting into the world?
Mon Rovîa (00:07:26):
Yeah, the music I create, I think for one is peaceful. When when that song comes on, my hope for you is to have you lose anxiety, for you to be able to sink in and think about, I think the importance of one yourself. And I hope my music takes people into that realm and that they can then, I would say, understand just how important they are. So that's kind of the main purpose of the music. Yeah.
Mel Robbins (00:08:01):
Did you always know you wanted to be a musician?
Mon Rovîa (00:08:05):
No. No, not at all. Yeah, I think I had this gift of making music, but I was a very shy person. I was really quiet growing up. I mean, I've come from a lot. I had gone through a lot of things at a young age already, and so to assimilate as well in America, I think a lot of my life I was watchful trying to see what my place was and how to act as in African American in a white household in more of a middle class space, private school. So a lot of my life was watchful. I wanted to play the part well, and I think that was something that just became what I was early on.
Mel Robbins (00:08:44):
I love that word watchful. It's so relatable because regardless of where you come from or who you are or what family you're in, I think we've all had those experiences where we enter a space or we enter a group of people or we enter a chapter of our life and we say, I'm not sure I belong, or I'm not sure what I'm supposed to do. And this idea of stepping back and watching, wow, I really get that about you. And I can think of moments in my life where I felt that way too. And I think it's something that we do when we also feel lost. And it's probably a part of how you figure out how to find your way and find yourself.
Mon Rovîa (00:09:28):
Yeah. And it also protects you from, at the time, from saying things maybe that you shouldn't say or maybe social cues that you don't understand coming from different places or things like this. So it was definitely a protection mechanism for me as well.
Mel Robbins (00:09:42):
You know you mentioned that one of the things that you hope people feel is peace when they listen to your music.
Mon Rovîa (00:09:48):
Yeah.
Mel Robbins (00:09:48):
But one of the big themes that you have is you talk a lot about healing. In fact, the tour that you're on right now heal with others, and I've also seen you use the quote Healing out loud, and your mission to me is clearly more than just making music and going on tour, and that stuff is all incredible. But can you talk a little bit more about why healing with others and the sense of creating and cultivating peace within yourself is such an important thing for you?
Mon Rovîa (00:10:21):
Yeah, it's important to me because I suffered a lot alone, even being surrounded by a lot of people, I had that feeling, and that's not just known to me. There's people like that all the time. You work big jobs, you're in a place where you're surrounding people, but you still go home and you're like, wow, no one understands me or what I'm going through. And music for me was that journal, that outlet where I could be honest with my feelings. And when I kind of started to do music a little bit more full time, I saw that how this could relate to other people as well. And so I think the mission was birthed from one be seeing how successful it was on myself trying to form a community that way. So it's been amazing just to see it do what it's done.
Mel Robbins (00:11:15):
You and I are about to get into your remarkable life story, and you're young. I mean, I'm like a grandma compared to,
Mon Rovîa (00:11:23):
no, you're not. Stop. Time is time. What is time?
Mel Robbins (00:11:26):
What is time? But you literally, when I think about the extraordinary number of experiences ranging from war to adoption, to moving to another country, to now finding yourself on stages around the world and being laser focused on this message of peace. And what does it say to you that your music and your story is resonating with millions of people around the world?
Mon Rovîa (00:12:03):
Well, I think it's a needed thing. And I don't think enough people are sinking into that space where you give someone the space to really have quiet and an intimate time with themselves. The world is fast moving, it's loud, and that's why having the ukulele, or we didn't even have drums for a while, and a lot of my sets right, people were still into just the sound and the experience and the words and the storytelling, and it brought them back to situations and moments in their own life where they can really look at it clearly, look at the mirror, one that we all try to run away from all the time. And so it says a lot to me. It says that it's important, the work I'm doing, and I just hope to continue in it as best I can.
Mel Robbins (00:12:52):
Well, there's no doubt you're going to.
Mon Rovîa (00:12:54):
Well, yeah, it's hard. It's not easy.
Mel Robbins (00:12:56):
What's hard about it?
Mon Rovîa (00:12:59):
I think it's so much easier to pour and pour things that are detrimental, like anger and selfishness and sink that into the earth Instead, the outpouring of love is hard and the outpouring of grace and forgiveness, it doesn't come easily to us as humans. And so I think for me personally, as the artist, it can weigh on you at times the giving of it if you don't have a place to be refilled. And so that's also why community is so important. It goes back to that because to do the work that must be done for good, you have to have also that mooring of people that you know can go back and get replenished to go again.
Mel Robbins (00:13:50):
When I first heard you, somebody sent me your Instagram account and I hit play on one of your songs, and I'm like, who is this guy? This is, I hate to even be refer. I'm like, is this Cat Stevens or is this Yusef Nado? What is happening here? That's sweet. And you have this incredible, it's like you defy the category that people want to put you in. You call yourself in terms of the music, I've heard it called Appalachia folk.
Mon Rovîa (00:14:28):
Yeah, Afro Appalachian.
Mel Robbins (00:14:30):
What does that mean?
Mon Rovîa (00:14:31):
I mean, I live in Appalachia, so that tail end down in Tennessee, and I'm from West Africa, Liberia, capital city, Mon Rovîa, and there's a lot of history in Appalachia with the slaves that came over, the Irish, the Scots, and the mountains writing these songs together, all these things mixing together in culture. And I didn't even know a lot of this living in Tennessee, to be honest. I learned this history as people started to say things like you like, oh, you're cats, you're this. I didn't know the lore of the history of folk and everything like this, but in the space of being in Tennessee and seeing the correlation of how this is history, I dunno, it is been a powerful thing to have it revealed to me this way because I wasn't trying to be, I don't think anything with Ara Appalachia or I just made music that I thought would help me on the journey of my life. Yeah.
Mel Robbins (00:15:33):
Well, let's talk about the journey of your life because you were born in Liberia and in the midst of civil war and all of this violence, your life changed forever when you were seven years old. Can you tell me what happened?
Mon Rovîa (00:15:49):
Absolutely. So my mom, she's a working woman, and so she's had a couple kids along the way. A lot of them passed away during the war. So me, my brother Timothy, my sister Tik bla, who we call Jacqueline, because the other name's just super hard to say, us three, we lived and she kept us and raised us as best she could. She passed away in childbirth with our other brother. And so it was just my grandmother taking care of us at this time. And it was hard during the war, there was nothing. And this missionary family that had been working in Mon Rovîa had been doing things in the community, and one of my aunts decided to go and literally just bring me to them. There was no, I mean, it could have been my sister or it could have my other brother that was chosen, but she picked me up and said, you're going to go live with this family.
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So from that day on, I lived with them just in Liberia, and we lived through the war before we went back to the States for a little bit. And I don't think when I became older, I realized how much it did to my mind. I think being pulled from your land, the language similarity of people didn't have the words for it then. No, I didn't speak. I was quiet for a long time. Yeah, my adopted family tells me this all the time. They're like, yeah, you didn't say a word to us. We thought something was wrong with you. I was like, yeah, probably there was something wrong with me. I didn't know who you were. These were these white people.
Mel Robbins (00:17:30):
Did you have a sense when you said goodbye to your grandmother that
Mon Rovîa (00:17:33):
No, I didn't know it was goodbye, I don't think,
Mel Robbins (00:17:36):
Have you seen your brothers and sisters since this?
Mon Rovîa (00:17:39):
Man such a tale to get to that, but recently I did make contact with my sister after a long time of really not paying attention to anything about it. So it's been a very hard, very hard thing to come to terms with.
Mel Robbins (00:18:02):
I would imagine.
Mon Rovîa (00:18:03):
Yeah.
Mel Robbins (00:18:04):
And I'm sure you'll continue to come to terms with it for your whole life. I think that's how something that dramatic actually works.
Mon Rovîa (00:18:12):
Yeah. It is something that I wasn't ready for most of my life to look at as I lived the American experience. I think it's so easy to feel ashamed of where you're from, even if it's you had no parts of play in it. So I try to just bury a lot of those things and forget.
Mel Robbins (00:18:41):
And how is that working?
Mon Rovîa (00:18:45):
The fast is always in the undertow and the choices that you make. And it never left until I looked at it and was ready to accept the truth.
Mel Robbins (00:18:55):
What do you remember about what your life was like before this happened? Being a kid growing up in the middle of this really violent war in Liberia, because in case the person listening doesn't understand, one of the things that was happening is they were taking young boys like you and turning them into soldiers.
Mon Rovîa (00:19:16):
Yeah, yeah. My two brothers Saturday and Emmanuel, they fought in the war ages five to 10. And I grew up, I was born in the midst of the fighting already, so all I would've known is chaos and violence. But before that, Liberia was a very beautiful place. I mean some of the friendliest people, and there was a lot of good going on. There was a dictator that came in bringing child soldiers from neighboring countries into Liberia, overthrowing the government, and from there kind of descending the country into chaos. It destroyed everything. I mean, even to this day, Liberia is still trying to recover, but there's no law. And you're obeying five-year-olds with AKs and RPGs telling you, get on the ground, will take your sister, and you have to listen. It's actually kind of insane to wrap your head around that. That's possible.
Mel Robbins (00:20:15):
One of the things that you said that was I think very relatable is that this sense of feeling, a deep sense of shame about either where you've come from or your past or what's happened, even though you had no part to play and you are not responsible for what happened, and yet you carry that with you, what would you say to the person that's listening that either feels that same sense of shame about their past or about where they've come from or about where they are now or somebody that they love is feeling that way about what's possible in terms of how to move through something like that?
Mon Rovîa (00:20:58):
Yeah, no, that's a really good question. I mean, for me, and I can only say it from I think from my own standpoint, but I would tell you that there's so much more, I would say beyond, beyond the past. And you can't let the past hold you and take you out of the world that you are meant to be a part of. And it did that to me for a very long time. And I sat and wallowed wilting, just blaming myself for a lot of things. And it's such an easy thing to do as Mel said. But I hope the beauty of knowing that life is long and every step leads you somewhere beyond the things that want to capture you and take you back. And the past is this, a lot to all of us. And I would just hope that you always make it up your hills and around your corners. You just never know when good comes, but it takes continuing,
Mel Robbins (00:22:20):
Continuing. What does that word mean to you?
Mon Rovîa (00:22:27):
That word to me, I mean, I think that's my whole life has been that word actually. It means finding another day for me, there was so many times I wanted to quit and lay down and say, yeah, yeah, I can't do this. I can't overcome the survivor's guilt. I can't overcome the truth of the feelings I have with my mother and things like this. And I would tell myself through the gray, find another day, another day to quit, and it helped me to make it through. Each day I'd be like, not today, I'll find another day. And though I continued again, find another day, I continued again until as choices come, I started to make better ones. I started to see how far I had gone from my suffering into the day, into this beautiful experience of life into where I am now. And it wouldn't have happened if I didn't keep finding another day to do it.
Mel Robbins (00:23:40):
I want to make sure that the person listening really gets that. Because when you first said it, I didn't quite get it. And then I saw the genius in it. And so let me try to unpack this and play this back to you to see if I'm interpreting this the right way. Okay?
Mon Rovîa (00:23:54):
Yeah, sure.
Mel Robbins (00:23:55):
So when you said find another day, right? So nobody would blame you by the way, if you're like, this is all just too much. I just can't handle this anymore. The genius in what you did to coach yourself through that, I want to make sure that the person listening really gets is when you said find another day. If Mel Robbins said it, he would have this tinge of positivity. You actually had this genius thread through it, which nope, nope. I'm going to find another day to quit. Meaning today's not the day I quit, but I'm giving myself permission to quit on another day if I want to. And there's so much truth and acknowledgement of how difficult the experience was, and maybe some days still is to reconcile everything that's happened to you.
Mon Rovîa (00:24:51):
It's true.
Mel Robbins (00:24:52):
And to give yourself permission to feel what you need to feel. But when you say, not today, I'm going to find another day to quit, but today is not the day I quit.
Mon Rovîa (00:25:03):
Yeah. Today is not the day.
Mel Robbins (00:25:04):
Right?
Mon Rovîa (00:25:05):
Yeah, absolutely.
Mel Robbins (00:25:06):
There's something in the brutal honesty of that that I think makes it profoundly powerful.
Mon Rovîa (00:25:13):
You know If you talk about adoption in itself, a lot of families think this. I'm not saying mine did, and they were an amazing family, but I'm saying when I look at people that I know that are adopted, that have been rescued from a bad family or experiences around the world similar to mine, a lot of these adopted families believe just that, oh, you've been saved, so you're good. And it's just not the case for those that are adopted people, there's so much depth in coming from what is your lineage or bloodline, but being torn from that, torn from a mother or a father, it's something that you have to carry through your entire life.
Mel Robbins (00:26:03):
I want to be very clear to repeat back something that I heard, which is I don't hear you blaming your parents that adopted you. In fact, you have talked about the fact that this was an incredible gift. What I hear is you acknowledging the truth about how complicated an experience it can be for people who are being adopted because you have this huge range of emotions. You feel grateful for the fact that somebody has taken you into their family, but you also feel confusion, confusion as to whether or not you were wanted by your family. And if you were the only one adopted and you have siblings that are still somewhere else, you wonder why was it you? And then on top of that, I would imagine that if you're coming from another country that adds a whole host of other feelings that you may have about whether or not you belong, none of which is the fault of the adoptive parents. And I'm sure if you're listening now and you've either been adopted or you're an adoptive parent, you know that this is true, but perhaps you don't quite know how to create a space for all of those complicated feelings to be okay and to be talked about without somebody feeling bad. I think that's what you're saying.
Mon Rovîa (00:27:23):
Yeah. There's so many feelings wrapped up in it. One, you watch your siblings, you see where they get certain traits from. And again, I have characteristics of mine do because I was young, so I do have things, characteristics of my dad, my adopted dad, adopted mom. But you watch and see the gate of their walk or a certain smile that comes across their face that looks like their mom or dad. And you wonder, you start to wonder, can I have the song that I wrote about it called Whose Face Am I? And you start to wonder whose face am I? What is my history? What is my story? I just think for anybody that adopts, yes, it's a beautiful experience and you're doing an amazing work giving kids, I think an opportunity to live and also find themselves. But I hope that as well, you never let them go through without telling them. I think the truth of their starting point, even if it's a hard story, and there's something that will give them a lot of, I think, identity in hearing where they've come from, regardless of how hard it is.
Mel Robbins (00:28:35):
Is that something that was kept from you for a while?
Mon Rovîa (00:28:37):
I wouldn't say, I dunno. Kept is interesting. I don't know if it was kept really, but we didn't really talk about it. And so when I tell you how I reached my sister and I have now come back together, I was in a place to ask a lot of different things about my story. And honestly, that's kind of healed me the most throughout my entire time.
Mel Robbins (00:29:02):
What were some of the most surprising or reassuring things that you learned about your story that helped you heal?
Mon Rovîa (00:29:10):
Well, I learned a lot about my mother. And I think the root of my suffering, which is an important piece, is it always been around her and not knowing her and not knowing the feelings that maybe she had or if I had come into this world based on love or based on other things. And so it was tough because I found out some other things about just what she had to do during the war to survive. And some of those things were really heavy for me to hear, but I also found out in the middle of that that she loved me very much. She decided to keep us think about the sacrifice of a woman deciding to have a child in war, being like, I am going to try to take care of them in this experience. It made me feel very, very loved.
Mel Robbins (00:30:10):
Can I ask you a really personal question? And we can edit this out, but I'm just curious about this. So as part of your concern that you were conceived because of sexual violence that was happening during the war?
Mon Rovîa (00:30:22):
Yeah, absolutely. Yeah. And actually that doesn't bother me one bit. It's the truth of the matter. And that was something as a kid that I was always afraid to ask to wonder. I didn't want to wonder about that.
Mel Robbins (00:30:39):
Is that what happened?
Mon Rovîa (00:30:41):
Yeah. Yeah. And so growing up, I mean, people will say many things and say maybe I was a bastard and things like this. I thought about this at a young age. I was already pretty in tune about just a lot of the world. So I wondered a lot and maybe very, I felt very alone
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Thinking about this. And I remember speaking to my sister, and I'll tell you the story. I was driving with my manager, two, my managers coming from a tour and I'm speaking to my sister, listening. I have my headphones in. She's telling me this story. And I was like, so tell me about my mom. And she says, oh, her mom, she was so beautiful, kind, hilarious. She remember she's older than me, so she remembers a lot more. And I was like, well, so what about my dad? And she tells a story of how things went down, and I remember I sat in the back and I just wept. Yeah, I cried. Those tears that I had held in for a very long time when it came to that part of my story faced it, accepted it that from violence, still beautiful things can come. And I think that is what brought me a lot of peace there. The love afterwards I think meant that she kept me meant the most ever. So I mean, I wouldn't be here without that.
Mel Robbins (00:32:24):
What's your mother's name?
Mon Rovîa (00:32:25):
Her name is Maria. Yeah, man,
Mel Robbins (00:32:31):
Thank you for sharing that.
Mon Rovîa (00:32:32):
Absolutely. Yeah.
Mel Robbins (00:32:33):
Where your manager's like, dude, what's going on back there? The hell's going on.
Mon Rovîa (00:32:39):
Yeah.
Mel Robbins (00:32:39):
You just sold out that show. Why are you bawling like a baby back there?
Mon Rovîa (00:32:43):
They were, man. I remember they looked back and they gave me peace though. They looked back and they just kept forward. I don't think they knew. They just let me, but they let me have that space to just pour out things that I needed to. And they didn't really ask. It was awesome. They just let me do it and we went on. There was no weirdness about it. And that's a beautiful thing, man. Crying is super important in life.
Mel Robbins (00:33:04):
Well, that's one of the most important things to point out, that you gave yourself the space.
Mon Rovîa (00:33:08):
Yes. Yeah.
Mel Robbins (00:33:09):
I would love to have you, since you seem to have made peace with the truth about how you were conceived and the circumstances that you were born into, and you have really been able to tell a different story about the love that Maria had in choosing to keep you and love you and cherish you. And a lot of people don't do that.
Mel Robbins (00:33:40):
For somebody that is listening to you and they're thinking, well, I just am so different from my family, or I know exactly what you're talking about, but I don't know how to reconcile the truth, what would you recommend as something that they could do to start walking down that road of healing and that sense of coming to peace with the truth about just your life story?
Mon Rovîa (00:34:12):
I think finding a place where you feel safe is the number one step into one, possibly accepting the truth or coming to terms with it. And for me, music was the safe space. So I would tell that person, if you have somewhere where the world is quiet, where you can look at it clearly and take the time, give yourself that time. Because it wasn't something that I did when I was 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12. I mean, no, this was years. And I think accepting that when it comes, it will come, but you also have to create the spaces that are not in the loudness of the world for you to be able to sit still and really look at the truth. So whatever that space is for them, that I think there is where acceptance will be found.
Mel Robbins (00:35:20):
Do you remember the first time you felt safe?
Mon Rovîa (00:35:23):
First time I felt safe. It's an interesting question because I was safe, but I remember still dreams followed me. I mean most of my life, even until now, I have dreams of being chased by child soldiers or guns to my head and things like this. So safety in my mind is something that I still search for. But bodily safety, I mean, when I left Liberia, I think that was when I was like, okay, yeah, I don't think anything's really going to happen to me here.
Mel Robbins (00:35:55):
Well, you got the question, right? Because the question wasn't about whether or not you were safe because I think there's a sense for all of us that we can busy ourselves and we can know that we are okay,
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But as we are out running or denying or not allowing ourselves to process what we need to process or to be honest about the things that we're struggling with, we don't feel safe. And I read that since you weren't thinking, okay, I'm just going to write music about my pain and that's what I'm going to do with my life. And that's what you were literally seeking space to be able to process the experiences of your life. And I read that you started journaling and that became the early entry point for you to start writing music. Can you talk about the power of journaling and how it helped you?
Mon Rovîa (00:36:43):
Yeah, I could never say, I wouldn't say I was the best speaker in my family. I had a hard time always trying to convey what I wanted to say to my parents or mainly my parents. I remember when I fell in love with just words when I started to write, and it was just a place where it could be me. It was just me and me. That was the first safe space in the journaling. And I didn't intend to really have that go into song to be honest. But kind of as time went on, I was able to turn a lot of my writings and things into melodic kind of flows and things like this, and it became that way. And now as I am older and things like that, that's kind of how I write my lyrics is most of the time it starts with me thinking about things that I have a hard time saying or things I think about the world and I'm writing them down and then they come back to me weeks, months, years later into a song kind of just, yeah. And that's the downloading from the source. I don't think about it, but when it presents itself again and reappears these lyrics and then it just turns into something that can help another person.
Mel Robbins (00:38:09):
One thing I want to validate, because I noticed you said I wasn't the best speaker, and I think for me, and the person that's with us right now are like, no, you're a pretty good speaker. Actually. I think the accurate thing, and I'm just going to say this and you tell me if this feels right to you, is you didn't feel safe saying what you needed to say.
Mon Rovîa (00:38:37):
That is accurate.
Mel Robbins (00:38:38):
And it goes back to that sense of being a watcher in life.
Mon Rovîa (00:38:42):
Yes.
Mel Robbins (00:38:43):
That I think we've all had an experience where we're stepping back and we're in a mode of protecting and not wanting to hurt anybody, not wanting to say the wrong thing. And I say that because I look at the various things that people write in about that listen from around the world. And maybe as you're listening, you've said yourself, I'm not really good at communicating. I'm not really the best speaker.
Mon Rovîa (00:39:07):
Yeah, true.
Mel Robbins (00:39:08):
I would have you ask yourself, is that it? Or are you more concerned about making sure everyone around you is not upset or confronted by what you actually are feeling and want to say? And so I love this takeaway that journaling became a space that you created for yourself.
Mel Robbins (00:39:30):
Um, one of the things that I read that you said that I would love to dig into is I used to be in love with my suffering. What does that mean?
Mon Rovîa (00:39:42):
It became something I thought I deserved. And so in that I accepted that exact thing that I'm meant to suffer and a lot of people do that. I for one, easily did that. When it came to anything that I went through, I said, I deserve this because I would look at my life and the choices I made, and it all goes back to Liberia for me because I wanted to forget them. I wanted to pay them no mind to not even respect the lives of the people lost there. I just wanted to be America. I just wanted to go to college, go to play. My sports, have all these things in life. And when I was in college, it came to a head. My mind literally shattered.
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I was so depressed and had no course. And so I said, you know what? I'm I'll just suffer. This is my penance. Because of all the time I wasted in America not utilizing the gift of having an opportunity to do something, I put everything of that on myself, my mother dying. I put that maybe if Timothy or my sister Jacqueline were here, maybe one of them would've been a doctor to do something even more useful, maybe one of them would've done something that where they could give so much back to Liberia or whatever. I didn't think of anything, became American happy and did my thing. And when it came, and when I realized this, when I was older looking back, I said, wow, I wasted a lot of time doing absolutely nothing for what my story deserves.
Mel Robbins (00:41:41):
And I know the person listening either knows somebody like this or they are that person, I deserve bad things.
Mon Rovîa (00:41:48):
Yeah, that's what I thought.
Mel Robbins (00:41:49):
Wow. How did you turn this around? Talk to the person that's with us and just share a little bit with what was the epiphany? How did you turn this around and go, wait a minute, I don't have to do life this way.
Mon Rovîa (00:42:03):
Yeah. I mean, I was on Lookout Mountain, Georgia. I was up there with some roommates and I was doing drugs, drinking like crazy, couldn't pay my rent, doing odd jobs and just not caring about anything. Everything that I had went to alcohol. And I woke up one morning knowing that I wasn't going to be able to make my rent anything like this. I was borrowing money from all my dad's, Fred's people that he'd know. I was texting them, can I have somebody just to pay my rent? But it was always going back to other things. And of course it got back to him one day and he calls me up, my father and he's son, I want you to come to. And he'd asked me times before, and this brings me back to just speaking to that person. There are people in your life that have stayed,
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Whether you see it or not or want to see it, there are those that have stayed and they're the ones that have been there for you in the dark night, have whispered to you. Don't say that about yourself. No, no, you don't deserve that. And when you fall in love with your suffering is when you decide not to hear those people anymore.
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And so for some reason, I was at such a low point in my life, I remember I said, I have nothing else. And so I took this hand that was extended from my father and I left Tennessee. I said, dad, I have nothing else. I'll come. I don't know what this is going to do. I dunno. So I went to California and all I did was build this house with my father, me and him. He was building the house in Dana Point, California. And some days he would leave and go to the church and I would just be home by myself for hours, tearing down the house, taking out the nails, breaking down walls. And that alone time, it's what healed me. I saw the correlation of the destruction of this home to rebuild something new. And I thought, can I do the same thing to myself? And it was just a powerful thing to me to be working with my hands on this house and making it beautiful at the same time, working on inward things. But I would say to the listener, notice the hands that are extended towards you at all times, the ones that are going to help you come out of that place. I don't think it's something you can really do alone, to be honest. The need for each other is, the only way I think the world continues is to know that we rely on each other for moments such as that.
Mel Robbins (00:44:57):
Talk to me about the name, because your name was John Jay, is that right?
Mon Rovîa (00:45:01):
Yeah, it's my birth name.
Mel Robbins (00:45:02):
Okay. And so you changed your name though to Mon Rovîa, which is the capital of Liberia.
Mon Rovîa (00:45:08):
Yeah.
Mel Robbins (00:45:09):
When did that happen and why did you choose to do that?
Mon Rovîa (00:45:12):
Happened after I went to California. Yeah. In the building process, music finds me again because at this point before that, I wasn't really doing much music, I was just trying to live and overcome. But when I got back to California, started to really dive into these things, I started to fall in love with music again and writing the truth. And I remembered, I said, if anything came from this, it can't be about me anymore at all. And I said, I need to remember my people and where I'm from to keep me on course to keep me grounded. And so Mon Rovîa was the choice name. It's a reminder to me of everything.
Mel Robbins (00:45:54):
How long ago did you do that?
Mon Rovîa (00:45:56):
That would be 2019.
Mel Robbins (00:45:59):
Wow.
Mon Rovîa (00:46:00):
Yeah.
Mel Robbins (00:46:01):
I mean, this is kind of amazing because we're talking just six years ago, five years ago, you weren't even writing music then?
Mon Rovîa (00:46:10):
No, not before that. I was not doing anything with music.
Mel Robbins (00:46:14):
That's kind of incredible. How have you processed the survivor guilt? Because you've talked about the fact that you were the one that was chosen. It could have been your older sister or your brother, and they might have made more of the opportunity. And you've beaten yourself up about this.
Mel Robbins (00:46:30):
How do you process the survivor guilt?
Mon Rovîa (00:46:36):
I mean, shift. I moved from a place of blame to a place of, I think claiming this opportunity. Not that I have to owe anything to what I am doing, and that wasn't easy, but to understand that I get to instill good things to people. I get to because of this rescue bring more good into the world this way. It's something I get to do. And I don't keep it as, I think in the beginning of Mon Rovîa, I looked at it as something of app penance to my people. But as time has gone on, I'm understanding more everything that happened to me. It's almost like anti fragility, I suppose, where these things in life that happen to you, you can choose to become stronger from them. And so I think choosing that, choosing to accept the gift, that's what it was. It was a gift. And it freed me once I could accept it to be like, this is an experience that was chosen for me. And I don't know, I dunno if my sister has music or my brother and I will do everything I can with the gifts given now to shine light on my people, the history of them, of black Americans here, of people in different countries that are struggling with different things. I get to do that because of the gift that was given to me from that time.
Mel Robbins (00:48:27):
I am blown away by that reframe. And I want to make sure that we really highlight that because that was extraordinary. People have survivor's guilt over lots of different things,
Mon Rovîa (00:48:42):
Lots of different things.
Mel Robbins (00:48:44):
You can have survivor's guilt because you survived a car crash that a good friend, you can have survivor's guilt because your sibling was the person that was abused. And you can have survivor guilt for just endless reasons. And you just said you were able to move it from blame. You make yourself wrong for being the one that it didn't happen to claiming this and really seeing the fact that this is a gift and the way that it's a gift goes back to something that you said you're meant to be here. Is there anything else that you would say to the person who is really just kind of struggling with the guilt, that kind of undeserving thing, which again sounds like I love my suffering, so I'm just going to, there's periods of grief of course, but then there comes that point where you're like, okay,
Mon Rovîa (00:49:47):
Yeah. I think if you can change guilt to growth and notice that there's always an opportunity for that. Anywhere you look, you don't have, and it's not a massive, it's not changing overnight. It's the little tiny changes you can make of something. Whether it's I drink this many whatever beers a day, or maybe you take one less one day, growth happens. And I think that overcomes a lot of guilt is letting, I think letting growth take its place and not sitting in guilt. I think you can always grow from it. And so that's what I've done.
Mel Robbins (00:50:30):
So you've shared that music was the space for you to heal and journaling was the space for you to, when were you like, you know what? I think I'm going to sing. I think I'm going to pick up a ukulele and I think I'm going to start to write some songs. When was that moment that you're like
Mon Rovîa (00:50:48):
With the ukulele Man, that was a long way, way. It's a long way before that I was, I mean, I guess I take it back to high school. I did play a little bit of guitar, a very small bit, but I wrote more for my friends back to in junior, senior year of high school. So I already knew that that gift of writing was there, but I never really wanted to be seen. I'm not someone that likes to be in the front of people.
Mel Robbins (00:51:12):
You're a watcher.
Mon Rovîa (00:51:13):
I'm a watcher. Yeah.
Mel Robbins (00:51:15):
Or so you say
Mon Rovîa (00:51:15):
So I say, yeah, I guess that's, but I went to college and I did, I did a musical event there called Mountain Affair at the school, covenant College on Lookout Mountain, Tennessee. And I ended up winning People's Choice Award at this school. And still I was like, nah, this is not for me. And so after I go to California, after my things, I go to California, I'm starting to become mon. I pick up a ukulele because my parents got me this gift. I didn't want to play the ukulele. I wanted a guitar.
Mel Robbins (00:51:50):
Okay. They're cheaper though. A ukulele is cheaper. And plus having musicians in my family, if I buy you a guitar and you don't play it, I'm pissed.
Mon Rovîa (00:51:59):
Yeah, exactly.
Mel Robbins (00:51:59):
I spend 60 bucks on a ukulele. We're good.
Mon Rovîa (00:52:02):
And there was an old guitar, this is whatever, but they gave ukulele. I just started to write, find simple chords, and this is back in California. And I started just to write some songs. And now this stuff wasn't going, I wasn't making this broad to people. I just played it a little bit. I moved back to Tennessee and because of me being, I'll be honest, I think it was because of me being black, I never really went into singer-songwriter that genre. I decided to go, okay, from Mon Rovîa, I'll take it into a more experimental way. I'll just do, I'll write over beats because this is what African American smart who's going to accept me into that space.
Mel Robbins (00:52:43):
Is that the kind of music you listen to?
Mon Rovîa (00:52:44):
No, that's what I'm saying. I listened growing up, when my foster brothers came into the home, they showed me more of these singer-songwriter music, but I never thought I could do that just based on my skin. And I didn't see anybody in that world that was doing that in my space, in that space. And so being mon, I decided just to write over rap beats and do more of a lyrical rap thing. It's in dark consonant, which is a lot of different genres, and it wasn't sticking still. So this is 2021 COVID area.
Mel Robbins (00:53:14):
Okay.
Mon Rovîa (00:53:15):
And 2021 comes to a close and 22 comes around. And I'm like, I found my ukulele again. And I started to play and write songs on this ukulele. One of my managers, Eric, who was with me from the beginning in the gutter, he tells me, dude, you should go on TikTok. You should go. And just, I love what you're doing with the ukulele, everything else. That's not it. You have these amazing songs, you have these lyrics that touch me. I think they'll touch other people as well. And so end of 22 December, every day I just went out. I was like, oh, whatever. I went on TikTok. I just played my song. Only my original songs used the ukulele. And people just started to gather to stay. They'd be at work, they'd have it on at work, they'd be making coffee in the mornings, and they would just have me on playing these songs and listening to these original songs. And the community grew from there.
Mel Robbins (00:54:13):
Who's the watcher now? We all are. We're watching you Mon.
Mon Rovîa (00:54:16):
Yeah, y'all watching me all there. And so from there, that's when I think it dawned on me that, oh, there are so many other people that feel though different experiences and different bringings ups and everything. The emotions are what really connect all of us. We all know sadness, we all know pain, love loss. And so the music was hitting on those things and it brought so many different people into the space. It was really beautiful.
Mel Robbins (00:54:48):
When did you have this epiphany? This is what I want to do for a living, because you're dabbling in music cause It's fun and it's something to do. But then Eric's not Eric's your manager now, but when he is like, dude, you got to do this. This was like a friend encouraging you.
Mon Rovîa (00:55:06):
Oh yeah.
Mel Robbins (00:55:07):
And it sounds more like you were resisting the call and resisting the thing that everybody else saw.
Mon Rovîa (00:55:17):
It goes back to that, to the doubt. To the doubt of everything that I don't deserve to be doing this. Could it possibly happen if I gave it my full efforts? And I look back at my music and having a friend tell me believe in me more than I do is I would say is what? Put me on this journey. And you need people in your life like that.
Mel Robbins (00:55:45):
And it goes back to what you said earlier. When somebody extends a hand or somebody says, you got to do this thing. You really have something here. Notice how quickly we swat the hand away or like, nah,
Mon Rovîa (00:55:59):
Nah,
Mel Robbins (00:56:00):
Nah. Imagine how much would change in your life if you trusted the people that were encouraging you. Just imagine. And I don't think you have to believe in how it's happening. You got to stay focused on the thing that you're doing that you're really enjoying doing. And it's clear that you're enjoying this. What would you say to the person who is listening and they're holding onto something, a song, a book, a move. They want to make a name change, creating the space to feel what they need to feel. What do you want to tell them about just making the move to stop fighting against the pole of what I think we know deeply to be true, but we are either scared of or actively resisting.
Mon Rovîa (00:57:00):
Yeah. I mean, the time here is yours. And regardless of anything you have your choices to make. And you can either, I think, deny all the good that can possibly have in this life. Deny it yourself or make the choices that lead you to you becoming everything that you doubted. You just deserve to be happy. You really do. No matter what has happened, you deserve to be happy. You deserve to make the choices that lead you to where you want to go.
Mel Robbins (00:57:48):
What's interesting is, I think I just realized that there is so much suffering in denying yourself of what you want to do.
Mon Rovîa (00:57:57):
Yes.
Mel Robbins (00:57:58):
That is a form of loving your suffering. Is making excuses and holding yourself back from just trying the thing or putting yourself out there or making the change.
Mon Rovîa (00:58:09):
And you also could just do it because you yourself enjoy it. A lot of times you put it on, if I put this out there, what are people going to think about it or what? And at the end of the day, gifts are meant to be given. You're giving a gift. You know what it is. Whether you're an artist, you're author, a singer, you were given a gift, and it's meant to be given again. And it's a blessing that you get to give it to someone else. That in turn, maybe then it brings out their gift because they see your gift, shine your gift, heal your gift, brings something into their thought that they never thought about.
Mel Robbins (00:58:48):
You know you mentioned that when you first started screwing around with music, you were laying on the beats and doing lyrics on top of it. And it is the opposite of the, so when you look back though, and we all have those periods where we look back on what it looked like when we started, and you've got that your nose flared. I'm like, there's the cringe look on mine. Right? He just looks so peaceful right now.
Mon Rovîa (00:59:10):
I just did that not too long ago, dude.
Mel Robbins (00:59:13):
So what do you want to say to the person who literally is like, it's got to be right? They're afraid of that feeling.
Mon Rovîa (00:59:21):
Well, I mean, I think fear is totally okay. But don't let the fear stop you from finding what's more. I think you have to keep pouring, keep trying the gift, learning from it until, and it refines as you go. And that's how it is. You're not going to become Mozart or Taylor Swift overnight. I'm sure there was different versions all along the way because she kept putting it out or they kept putting it out. And that's what's happened on my journey, is I kept putting out and trying this gift, working at it, and eventually it reveals where it should be and now it is where it should be. And here we are.
Mel Robbins (01:00:10):
The art of continuing,
Mon Rovîa (01:00:11):
The art of continuing,
Mel Robbins (01:00:13):
And it's continuing to evolve.
Mon Rovîa (01:00:15):
And it's continuing and it probably will continue to evolve. Yeah.
Mel Robbins (01:00:17):
You know one of the things that I have read is that you said that the question that haunted you the most for a while is, who am I? How do you answer that question now?
Mon Rovîa (01:00:28):
I would say I am John Jay, Mon Rovîa, son of Maria from Liberia, West Africa. Yeah, that's how I'd answer that.
Mel Robbins (01:00:41):
How's it feel to say that
Mon Rovîa (01:00:43):
It's beautiful. Yeah, absolutely. Beautiful.
Mel Robbins (01:00:47):
And could you speak directly to the person listening who feels like, I don't know who I am, I dunno if I belong, and they're starting to, or wanting to or feel inspired to build their sense of identity, to claim the gift of it.
Mon Rovîa (01:01:11):
Yeah. If you stop now, you'll never know the groups of people that are waiting to bring you into that fold that, or the lives that you're going to impact in this life on this journey. If you had no one tell you this, I'm going to repeat it again, but you're meant to be here. And it starts with you believing that every day and then the world opens up and different things start to take form. And you're led to a place of belonging because you didn't stop believing that you were meant to be. And I think the belief portion is the most important aspect. And so I believe that you're meant to be here, and I hope you continue. And I wish people said that every day to each other, best friends, lovers, everybody. It needs to be a reminder. It's so easy to forget because of all the different hardships that life brings at you.
Mel Robbins (01:02:21):
So if the person listening takes just one thing, from all of the wisdom, all of the lessons that you have distilled down, as we've talked about your life, we've talked about the things that you doing with your music, what would you hope that one takeaway would be?
Mon Rovîa (01:02:45):
That your life is a gift and for you to live in that freedom with your choices. And in that just not be afraid to pour all the love you can into the experience that you have, regardless of the hurt and pain that may come because of the giving of it. Yeah. Pour all the love you can into this life that you have. Because it's yours.
Mel Robbins (01:03:23):
Do you have a song with that title?
Mon Rovîa (01:03:25):
Oh, no, I don't. I should huh?
Mel Robbins (01:03:28):
I think you should. I think you should.
Mon Rovîa (01:03:31):
And also you have your own, I think about something because you just brought up a song. But those who are for my friends who are in that place of suffering, or like we talked about earlier, falling in love with that suffering.
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The song Crooked the Road, it used to be called Crooked the Road in the One Driving. That's what I called it. Because for a long time I blamed the road, and we all do that. At some point we find excuses to go. It's because of how I was born. And again, these things still hold weight, but the one driving you, the one that has autonomy, you can always choose a different path, a different way. And sometimes you have to look at yourself on the road, on the journey and realize, I can take that other turn my band mate, Sam. He had this first hook to the song Just If You Are Leaving Telephone, and he brought that to the studio with us and we were in Chicago and we started talking about where this song could go. We loved the Hook, the chorus, which just so beautiful. That line of staying beside someone through everything. The song really is about leaving your suffering. I write the song about the place I'm at On Lookout Mountain, where I'm not noticing anybody or the hands and that song says that if I grab it, know that I care because darkness doesn't look good on you. Another thing we do is we don't want people to help because we fear our darkness going to them being engulfed by how much we are.
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And so we push them away. Crook of the Road is about that, is about accepting help. The person staying by the telephone line are the people that we exactly talked about earlier that want to see you better that are the helpers. Look to the helpers. We know this.
Mel Robbins (01:05:36):
Mr. Rogers.
Mon Rovîa (01:05:37):
Yeah,
Mel Robbins (01:05:39):
You know I know you're in Boston, not only for the Mel Robbins podcast, but because you are one of the headliners at Boston calling, massive concert this weekend.
Mon Rovîa (01:05:47):
Can't Wait,
Mel Robbins (01:05:48):
Which I know means you also have your ukulele.
Mon Rovîa (01:05:52):
I do. Yes.
Mel Robbins (01:05:53):
Could you play that song for us?
Mon Rovîa (01:05:54):
Yeah, absolutely. Yeah, gladly.
Mel Robbins (01:05:56):
Let's get the ukulele. Let's do it.
Mon Rovîa (01:05:59):
Sounds good.
Mel Robbins (01:06:00):
You know as soon as you got up to go get your ukulele, the door to the studio open. Everybody that's in the studio today came running in here. We now have an audience. I am so excited. I have loved being with you. I'm so excited to hear you play live and I'm so proud of you.
Mon Rovîa (01:06:18):
Thank you. Means a lot.
Mel Robbins (01:06:20):
I dunno why I'm going to cry, but I'm so proud of you.
Mon Rovîa (01:06:22):
It means a lot. Thank you.
Mel Robbins (01:06:23):
You're welcome. And I feel like I'm getting my own private tour experience right here, but I just want to say you are on tour selling out all over the place and I know big things are happening and something I have a feeling big is going to be happening this fall. We're going to be on the lookout because anywhere you are, Mon Rovîa is a place for gathering for us all.
Mon Rovîa (01:06:48):
Wow. Thank you so much. That means, that means more than you know,
Mon Rovîa (01:06:54):
This song is called Crooked the Road, and it's about leaving your suffering behind and noticing those that want to help.
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Crooked the road. And the one driving 25 years, I know you've been unraveling. Tell me why did you run past the dogs? And the horses, now you find yourself here past the dunes and don't serve your choices. But if you're leaving know I'll stay beside that telephone line. And tomorrow we might steal the sun from underneath our eyes. Tennis courts, when that was yours. Late night releasing sacred floors got me believing a little more that this pain will run its course in the morning I saw you there holding out your hand. If I grab it, know that I care cause darkness don't look good. But if you're leaving, know I'll stay beside that telephone line. And tomorrow we might steal the sun from underneath our eyes. Daybreaks sorrow, but I still feel the edge of this cold night. But next to you, I lay softly on this hard ground, but next to you, I lay softly on this hard ground.
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Thank you so much. Yeah,
Mel Robbins (01:10:38):
That's it. Wow, thank you. How did it feel to play that? What's that like for you, especially after sharing so much about your life and the meaning behind that song?
Mon Rovîa (01:10:53):
It's nice after those conversations because it just keeps the stories, I think meaningful to me because over time I was always worrying about I just don't want any of the songs and lyrics to never mean what they were to me when I wrote the song because you can play 'em so much at shows, you get a rhythm of just saying the same things or whatever. And so that song means a lot to me, takes me right back and thank you so much for letting me play it.
Mel Robbins (01:11:22):
Thank you. Thank you for everything. Thank you for being here. I'm so proud of you. Congratulations on all of your success. I think you are at the very, very, very beginning of a massive, as you call it, art of continuing and a beautiful career and a huge difference that you're going to make and I am just grateful that you accepted the gift of your life and that you're now sharing it with us. Thank you.
Mon Rovîa (01:11:52):
Thank you.
Mel Robbins (01:11:54):
And I also want to thank you. Thank you for taking the time to listen to this, to watch this, to share this with people that you care about, and I wanted to be sure to tell you in case no one else does that I love you and I believe in you, and I believe in your ability to create a better life and there is no doubt in my mind that if you listen closely and truly take to heart everything that Mon Rovîa has shared with you today that you are meant to be here, that there is a huge possibility for your life, just keep on continuing on and you will figure out what that possibility is that is meant for you. I truly believe that. Alrighty, I'll be waiting for you in the very next episode. I'll welcome you in the moment you hit play. I'll see you there and thank you for watching all the way to the end. Was that not extraordinary? I feel so inspired and moved. I know you do too. Thank you for sharing this with people that you care about. Thank you for hitting subscribe because that's one way you can support me as I'm supporting you and I know you're like, Mel, what do I watch next? I want you to check out this video. You're going to love it and I'll be welcoming you in the moment you hit play. I'll see you there.
Guests Appearing in this Episode
Mon Rovîa
Mon Rovîa is a Liberian-born singer-songwriter known for his soulful lyrics, raw honesty, and viral music that’s healing hearts around the world.
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- Dazed: Mon Rovia is reinventing Appalachian folk for a new generation
- International Rescue Committee: The inspiring journey of Mon Rovîa: From refugee to rising music star
- Centerstone: Navigating trauma through creative expression
- Frontiers in Psychology: The Assessment of Grief in Refugees and Post-conflict Survivors: A Narrative Review of Etic and Emic Research
- Cureus: The Intricacies of Survivor's Guilt: Exploring Its Phenomenon Across Contexts
- Cognitive Behaviour Therapy: Survivor Guilt: A Cognitive Approach
- Epidemiology and Psychiatric Sciences: The mental health of civilians displaced by armed conflict: an ecological model of refugee distress
- Frontiers in Psychology: Art Therapy: A Complementary Treatment for Mental Disorders
- Americans for the Arts: A Working Guide to the Landscape of Arts for Change
- Harvard Health: Can music improve our health and quality of life?
- The New York Times: How Music Can Be Mental Health Care
- Greater Good Magazine: How Journaling Can Help You in Hard Times
- Journal of Research on Adolescence: Dynamics of Identity Development in Adolescence: A Decade in Review
- Psychology Today: How to Let People Help You
- Stand Together: Healing from trauma: How survivors find resilience through community support
- National Alliance on Mental Illness: The Importance of Community and Mental Health
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