The “Let Them Theory” : A Life-Changing Mindset Hack That 15 Million People Can’t Stop Talking About

I shared the "Let Them Theory" on social media, and it went CRAZY VIRAL. 15 million views, 11,000 comments. Today, it’s your turn to learn this mindset trick.

I’ve been using this technique for awhile, so I know firsthand how powerful it is.

The "Let Them Theory" is so simple, you’re going to get it immediately.

And I have some great stories and examples to share with you, because there are three very different ways you can use it.

I can bottomline this in one sentence: 

When you "Let Them" do whatever it is that they want to do, it creates more control and emotional peace for you and a better relationship with the people in your life.

Xo Mel 

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• 2:30: My overfunctioning anxiety kicked in; until this happened.
• 6:30: Dr. Amy Johnson gives the best metaphor that explains our need to control.
• 9:20: Why do we get so upset about what we can’t do a damn thing about?
• 10:30: These three reasons explain why we try to control. 
• 11:20: Two reasons why your parents and partners are so controlling.
• 17:00: There are times like these when the “Let Them” rule does NOT apply.
• 19:00: How are you supposed to let go when you’re a parent?
• 24:30: Can you relate to this listener who’s worn down from her expectations?
• 28:00: Stop making up stories about why people do what they do, and just ask.
• 32:10: When you’re constantly rescuing people, here’s what you teach them.
• 35:00: Are you actually in a relationship with a real person, or a vision?
• 37:15: One way we try to control someone is through jealousy.
• 40:00: Growing apart from a good friend? Here’s how to handle it.
• 43:30: It’s not your responsibility to make sure everyone else is never hurt.

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Resources and go deeper:

• For Closed Captions: Watch on YouTube and turn on “CC.” For instructions to turn on closed captions, click here.

• Read this book to learn about overfunctioning anxiety with Dr. Harriet Lerner.
• Dr. Amy Johnson explains what emotional well-being looks like in this article.
• National Library of Medicine: How expectations impact our emotional health.
• UC Berkeley: Manage your expectations to manage happiness. 
• Psych Central: Here’s why you feel the need to control everything.
• American Psychological Association: 10 tips for dealing with uncertainty.
• Psychology Today: The line between supporting and rescuing kids.
• TODAY: Why friendships end and how to cope.  
• Learn how to deal with your anxiety. Watch “Anxiety Toolkit,” with Dr. Kennedy.
• Frontiers: The evolutionary psychology of envy and jealousy.