Where Did All My Friends Go? A Simple Guide to Finding Your People (Steal This!)

In this episode, I show you how to find your people, have more fun, and create meaningful friendships as an adult in a very simple way.

And it starts with your morning coffee. 

Plus, I’m sharing 4 opening lines and tactics you can use when approaching a potential new friend.

Can we just be honest? Making new friends as an adult is so hard. And I believe that we are all struggling with it.

So I’m going to share the strategies that I have used in the last year to go from moving to a new town and feeling like I have "no friends" to taking the steps to create an awesome new circle of adult friends.

 You will learn:

• The ONE practical and life-changing tool you need to create adult friendships
• A fun framework for friendship that involves the 4 different types of coffee shops in your area
•  The lies we all tell ourselves about friendships that keep us thinking we have none
• How remote work has changed the friendship game
• The single best place to park yourself on a Saturday morning to find your people
• How to approach a stranger (potential friend) without coming across as weird, creepy, or awkward

What I’m sharing today works because this is how I found my people in the last 12 months.

Xo Mel

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In this episode, you’ll learn:

• 2:37: Today I feel like I’m living in an adult summer camp; it wasn’t always this way.
• 4:31: It is within your power to create community and connection.
• 7:13: What happens when you look through the lens of loneliness?
• 8:55: The #1 mistake I made with my friendships.
• 10:15: If you want the flower to grow, you need to plant the seed. Let me explain.
• 14:05: The lie you’re telling yourself when it comes to friendships.
• 18:44: Why making friends feels so hard nowadays.
• 20:07: A fun framework for friendship that involves the 4 different types of coffee shops in your area.
• 27:58: The coffee shop I go to and why it’s been a game changer for meeting potential friends. 
• 31:28: I challenge you to do this the next time you get a coffee.
• 33:08: Friendship is a verb, you have to make it happen.
• 34:18: This ONE tool will allow you to create lasting bonds.
• 35:03: For all my introverts, here is my advice for you...
• 36:18: The easiest ways to create connection in any situation.
• 37:20: Don’t have weekend plans? You will after you do this.
• 41:08: Making new friends can be fun and easy (I’m being serious).

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Resources and go deeper:

• For Closed Captions: Watch on YouTube and turn on “CC.” For instructions to turn on closed captions, click here.‍

• The Secret to Living Longer May Be Your Social Life - Susan Pinker
• The Liking Gap: do people like us more than we think? - Research out of Harvard, Yale, Cornell, and Essex
• Good genes are nice, but joy is better - Harvard Study of Adult Development
• How to Make Friends? Study reveals time it takes - University of Kansas
• Text Your Friends: It matters more than you think - New York Times
• Friendships: Enrich your life and improve your health - Mayo Clinic 
• Surgeon General Advisory Raises Alarm about the Devastating Impact of the Epidemic of Loneliness and Isolation in the United States - U.S. Department of Health and Human Services ‍